Ok this started off being a search for the right women i should say the second right women since i was previously married. I figured i'd date a few different women and hoped to settle with one but that hasn't happened. Now i think that other women consider me as a male whore. Which truely isn't the case and it's not what i want to be but i don't want to be alone either so how do i stop being the so called male whore that some of my buds say i am and settle down with one?
2007-05-02 03:36:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that you don't want to be alone, it's that you don't want to be without regular sex. If you're honest with yourself, you'll see that you've actually been picking women based upon their willingness to have sex with you, and not because you've wanted to develop a serious relationship. This is why none of your escapades have lasted. It's also why you're being labeled as a male whore.
It's sort of like what a single woman does when she has financial problems. Every man she meets becomes a potential source of money. Hence, instead of taking her time and trying to develop a serious relationship with someone, she speeds up the process and jumps in bed with a guy long before he's had a chance to know her. She succeeds in getting a few dollars from these men, but the relationships don't last because the guys soon figure it out. She's only chasing the money after all. Before long, she's labeled as a prostitute, instead of a possible love interest, and her potential for marriage plummets. You're acting in a similar fashion.
Now that you're single, you find yourself having to speed up the process when you meet women, in order to maintain a reasonable sex life. You don't take the time to get to know these ladies, or allow them to know you, because you're too involved with getting the sex. Women soon figure it out--that you're only interested in the sex, so they turn the tables and start using you for sex, as well. You're then labeled as a whore, or a good time Charlie, instead of as a possible mate.
If you want to change this view of yourself, stop chasing sex and start developing sincere relationships with women. Learn how to control your body long enough to get to know a woman, and stop providing your sexual services to every girl who has a need. Understand that no decent woman wants a whore for a husband. A woman wants to think she has someone special--someone who's been as selective in choosing her as she's been in choosing him.
2007-05-02 05:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are ya sleeping with a bunch of women?
are they Buying you stuff/ giving you money?
then you ARE a giggalo
2007-05-02 03:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same way you did with your first wife
2007-05-02 03:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by AMS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop screwing everyone.
2007-05-02 03:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋