Have a co-worker my age who always talks to me, teases me. The other day he got me a fruit to my desk (I can't leave the desk) becoz I was hungry. I was v touched. We do like each other, but it hasn't gone beyond. No, I don't want to date him though, and I am not even sure if he has a Gf. He has never asked me either if I have someone. He is one person though who does brighten my day. It's his birthday tomorrow. What kind of recognition would be most appropriate in this case? A little gift (like what)? A card? E-card or a paper one? Or just a verbal Happy Birthday.
Thanks so much.
2007-05-02 03:33:51 · 11 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Anything you give him will be interpreted as more than just a friendly gift. You should just wish him happy birthday, unless you want to date him. If you don't want to date him, do not start with cards and gifts.
Look -- all these women saying "buy a cupcake and share the sweets" and that sort of thing -- they are looking at it from THEIR perspective. Girls can separate that stuff. They want guys that are "friends" to do cupcake and treat stuff for their birthdays, and not expect anything from it.
The problem is that men almost always (not always, but almost always) have s2x as their motive. If you give him a sweet card, and go out of your way to buy him treats and stuff it will send him a message that you might want more than just a friendship. He'l then start asking you out or making moves on you. Since you said you don't want that, I suggest you not give him any reason to do so.
That's how some problems get started. If he's just a friend/coworker then treat him that way. You do not have enough water under the bridge to know that he has no ulterior motive. A coworker gets a "happy birthday" and a communal card signed by everybody. Once you know him better and know that there will be no misunderstandng, then you can start with the cupcakes and gifts.
2007-05-02 03:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you have a great friendship going. There is nothing wrong with getting him a card and a little gift. Something small, inexpensive that acknowledges you appreciate him as a friend.
2007-05-02 03:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want to take this farther (even though you say that you dont, I suspect that you do) then tell him that you are going to take him to lunch for his birthday. If you want to keep it co workers only bake something and bring it in to work for everyone to share in honor of his birthday. Or you can get him a card that is a joke type card, nothing sentimental.
2007-05-02 03:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I suggest a card and maybe a cupcake. He seems like a nice fellow. I don't think he would "get the wrong idea" if you gave him a birthday card and a treat.
If you want to get him a gift, maybe a gift card to a coffee shop or to a bookstore like Border's. He can get CDs, DVDs or books. (Whatever he likes).
2007-05-02 05:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Send him a happy birthday e-card. Keep it a simple, maybe funny one and leave it at that. Anything more than that could be taken as you being interested in him.
2007-05-02 06:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make it fun!!! get a ittle cupcake and leave it on his desk and a helium balloon tied to his chair. if you want get soem other co workers involved and arrange taking him for an after work drink.
2007-05-02 03:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-09 07:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly don't want to take things further, I think a regular store bought card is fine....perfect for a work-setting type of friendship.
2007-05-02 03:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by icy_tempest 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get him a paper card and either cupcakes or cookies. it'll be sweet of you, and maybe you two can sit down together and share the sweets.
e-cards are so impersonal.
2007-05-02 04:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by jack_skellington49 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a card ought to be sufficient, says you are acknowledging his day and thinking of him, with out going over board and being misleading.
2007-05-02 03:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by just me #1 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋