Not sure if I'm just being silly, but this really annoys me. I'd like to hear other female's opinions. Thanks
2007-05-02 03:27:38 · 36 answers · asked by josietheninja 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, it would make me uncomfortable if that guy already has a girlfriend and seeing porn.
2007-05-02 03:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Joy B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It makes a girl uncomfortable when porn becomes the center of attention. Guys are more visual than females. Females get uncomfortable bc they feel they are being compared to another woman who looks better, has sex better, or whatever the reason may be. Girls want attention not the attention to be on a naked girl on tv. Why watch porn when you can make it, right? I personally dont mind watching porn with guys but when I am in a relationship, I feel a little differently. Im not quite sure why, but I want my man to look at me and only me. I dont want him to be pretending or wishing I was that girl he just seen. Woman have self esteem issues and I think that is the main reason why they find it degrading.
2007-05-02 03:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by kissbutnevertell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally it does offend me and it has happened to me. I accept that he needs to watch porn and that is ok, but it shouldn't be a habit. BUT he should not be perving at other girls. Yeah look and admire the beauty since women in general are beautiful creatures but keep a limit. No talking, and DO NOT fantasize about other women!
Basically put yourself in her shoes.How would you feel if your girl does that to you? How would you feel if she was getting off looking at another man's penis, ot abs or ***? How would you feel if she was layin around when you're not home with her vibrator thinking of other men and getting an orgasm off of it?
But then again this is me, you might find women who are really open :/ I have a gf that wouldn't be ok with any of this! To me there should be a limit to everything. Strip club is ok if its a boys occasion, porn is ok when I can't have sex or if we watched it together, looking at other girls are ok because I look at other men too but I don't think about them past that 5 second glance and he should be the same way!
Sorry if I said things you didnt want to hear. Your gf is normal is all I have to say and you are normal too. Just gotta get on the same page thats all.
2007-05-02 03:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not a girl, but a psychotherapist. It is very common for the girl/wife in this type of situation you describe, to become angry, upset, intimidated, hurt from having the man be interested in porn or other women. Pornography causes the woman to have the feeling that she "is being compared to the porn," or "that she is not good enough." She also can feel "that she is inadequate" if compared to others. Viewing of porn or looking at other women is a very selfish act on the part of the male.
2007-05-02 03:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's called respect. he should try and show you a little. I am a guy and I would never think of looking at porn or checking out another women if my wife is around. when women are objectified by men and women allow it you might as well give them a green light. 100% of his attention should be toward you when you are together. not on the girl walking by. if you 2 agree on watching porn I guess to each his own. but I certainly would not want my wife visioning some other guy while we are intimate. and I am sure she feels the same about me. sorry I am not a female answering this but that is how strongly I feel.
2007-05-02 03:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's always made me very uncomfortable (& unhappy) when my hubby or b/f would look at porn, either books or films. I always felt like that was time he could be doing things with me. & if he's gettin off to it, I really got upset because then, when it was time for me, he wasn't interested anymore. My first husband was addicted to porn, bought thousands of dollars worth of films & watched it constantly. Needless to say, I wasn't gettin any action at that time. The women in the books look so good, their bodies are so perfect - I'll never look like that - heck, didn't look like that when I was a teen, even!! - so yes, I feel intimidated & threatened by that. Should I?? Rationally, no - he's never going to see them, meet them or do them! BUT....is it the woman in the picture he's using when we're together or does he even see me at all? Of course, we're free to fantasize as well - & I see nothing wrong with reading Playgirl if he reads Playboy, but men do take it to extremes. If he gets really obnoxious about perving at other girls, call him to line for his actions. I understand they're gonna look, but they don't have to drool, howl, whistle, or make comments about the other females' attributes, ya know? I guess really what you have to do is find your own way to deal with it. Try to reach a place where it doesn't bother or hurt you. Once you let him know how you feel about it, then don't mention it again. He knows you don't like it, but chooses to do it anyhow. Don't nag - just find something else to look at! Good luck dear - hope my perspective helps.
2007-05-02 03:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES! This is just my opinion but, I'm sure others agree with me. I was married to a guy that would buy porn and hide it from me and lie to me about it when I would find it. Needless to say we got divorced about a year and a half ago. His porn addiction was one of the main reasons for the divorce.
The guy I am with now wouldn't think of "taking an interest" in porn.
Have a great day and I hope this helps!
2007-05-02 03:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Birdy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I try hard not to let my gfs catch me with porn unless they love it too, and i most certainly don't perv at other women when we're together... And I'm not the most faithful of guys, so I'd say he's being a bit rude.. there's no need to make a point of it, a sly look here and there would suffice.
Slap the bastard round the face if he comments about other women in front of you, if my gf did that about guys I'd tell her to go fcuk whoever she was drooling at and I'd walk away. There's no need to be around people in that way.
2007-05-02 03:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, porn doesn't bother me, but I do prefer him to watch it with me so we can enjoy it together, and act out what we're watching. So because of that, my bf doesn't watch it by himself, coz its not as much fun!! But every girl is different! You can always try suggesting it to your gf, see how she reacts. If she's never seen a pron before, & is reluctant to watch it, try & encourage her that it's a total turn on & if she doesn't like it at first then you'll turn it off.
Perving on other girls, now thats just wrong in my eyes!! Why would you want to look at other girls when you already have a gf?!?! Obviously there isn't a spark there if your looking elsewhere. And we KNOW when your perving!! So just don't do it - at least not in front of us!
2007-05-02 03:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Short & Sweet 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The generic porn doesn't bug me so much but some of those sites will have "meet me tonite" (usually for money but none the less) and say its our home town and that makes me uncomfortable. By perving other girls that are not porn stars that would make me mad. He flirts with young ones and I know hes not serious.
2007-05-02 03:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by teana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. I am married and it does not bother me in the slightest. I am completely confident that while my husband may think other women are pretty he loves me. Plus it is naive to think that for the rest of our lives we will only be attracted to each other. If you trust your partner then you have nothing to worry about. as for the porn it is on tv absolutely no reason to be threated. If he can't seem to rip himself away from it and that may be cause for a red flag but if it is just once in a while then in my book that is fine. You should try to watch it together... it can be a very good time!!!
2007-05-02 03:34:06 · answer #11 · answered by manda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋