We started sleeping together about 3 months ago, now I dont really find any interest in her anymore. How should I break it off without her telling my fellow co-workers?.
2007-05-02 03:27:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, first things first...this is something you should have considered BEFORE you became involved with a coworker AND you DONT tell your fellow coworkers your personal business regarding this other coworker. Geez, at least have a little common decency.
When you and GF see each other OUTSIDE of work next just tell her you need to make a break from the relationship that you think things went further than they should have. Try to make it an amiable break so that there are no interoffice fireworks...possibly costing BOTH of you your jobs. There is no need to be nasty or caustic, just practical. Just tell her it isn't going to work out and also reverberate that things need to be quiet. Both of you should decide on a generic statement to be given to any inquisitive minds such as "We just decided to make a break and just be friends". Something neutral. And, please remember this situation the NEXT time you think about fishing off of the company pier.
2007-05-02 03:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone you work with is not very wise.
You can either break up carefully and not cause a big fight, or you might damage your career and hers.
Another option is to make her break up with you. If you are not already an insensitive lout, try on the persona and see how long the relationship lasts. Slow things down, "forget" to call, break dates, "forget" dates, be rude to her friends, hit on her friends.
And let this be the last co-worker you date. I just hope you are not her supervisor. If you are, I can see a lawsuit in your future.
Good luck.
2007-05-02 10:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy...bad bad move, my friend. Sounds like you're already afraid of how this woman will react...which is why you came here for advice. Well, I would try to play up the work aspect of your relationship. Spin it so that it sounds like you have her best interests in mind. For example, you could say something like:
"I get the feeling that people suspect that something is going on between us. So, knowing how we both are ambitious people who want to thrive and be promoted within the company, I truely feel we should stop sleeping together and return to being collegues. It seems like the right idea, where both of our reputations are concerned."
How can she argue with that? Plus, you sound like you actually have her best interest in mind, rather than some other harsh break up.
2007-05-02 10:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tracee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit driving your little baby car around baby'sville and take your medecine like a man!This is the very LEAST you deserve for using her for sex.You CAN get to know someone enough to know whether or not you'd like to spend the rest of your life with them WITHOUT having sex.How? Simple, you just sit back and watch them for a while BEFORE you ever ask them out.See what their relationship with friends and family are, what kind of morals they have or dont have,are they responsible do they pay their bills? Chances are she's going to go off on you and you asked for it son.I dont know too many women who enjoy a guy dumping them after having sex with them a few months.Chances are she has some serious emotions invested in this relationship, but to be fair SHE volunteered for this when she took the risk of having sex before being married.She is partly responsible also.
2007-05-02 10:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD LUCK! This is the way that it is never ever date, or sleep with co-workers. I'm telling you from experience it is a very BAD idea. you have to fight the feelings and say no. its hard but has to be done!
2007-05-02 10:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by toddone03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you make it out of this without losing your job....i dont know your companies policies, consider yourself lucky. i did the same one time. What a mess. When i found out my girl at work was getting text messages from someone she tried to date before me and i tried to berak it off. The sweet girl threatened me with sexual harassment and started a rumor that i was stalking her. This turned into a 6 week investigation....(corporate B.S.). We did make up in the mean time. But i learned my lesson. All she had to do was cry again and i would be out the door. Moral to this story....When at work...Kepp your pencil in your pocket. Or i know you heard the other one about paycheck and P...... Good luck bro.
2007-05-02 10:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by foolish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. there is a saying where I come from... never sh*t where you eat. Basicly saying, never date another co-worker. It makes it that much harder to come to work when you break up. I tried that once, and I almost quit my job just so I wouldn't have to deal with seeing her every day. It makes it hard... Good luck.
2007-05-02 10:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by vulgar_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't your boss don't worry about it or you can make her break it off with you. Find out what annoys her without it being something she can use against you, just little pet peeves ya know? Being a girl I know it works. Little things can make a big impact. Other then that, good luck!
2007-05-02 10:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Daniyells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to hell. Bite the bullet and let her down as easily as possible. You do not want to insult her and catch a case and/or get fired. As far as office gossip goes, there is no way in stopping it. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-05-02 10:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by Adapted_For_The_Screen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dipped your pen in the company ink. Not good.
You will see dark days in the weeks coming.
2007-05-02 10:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋