ill b getting married in about 2 months. sometimes i get cold feet. i no its cold feet bc i love him so much and i want to b w/ him and im fine w/ marrying him its just alot of what ifs go thru my mind almost constantly.ive had ppl tell me that my worries r normal which i dont doubt at all. everything for the wedding is falling into place so nicely. i found an amazing dress that was $645 on sale for $161 http://www.tietheknotbridal.net/images/2043.jpg
and i found my flowers girl dress on sale for $35 it was a communion dress. my bridesmaids dresses r prom gowns that were on sale for $80 i found something to fit everyone and plz everyone. a family friend is a hobbyist photographer and willing to do the wedding free. the high school will lend me some volunteer violinist for a small donation to the orchestra. im able to get the park i wanted the wedding in. then i was told theliability ins (the park requires u to carry)would cost 325 but the agent gave me a secret about the liability ins
2007-05-02 03:13:10 · 11 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that the liability of a homeowners or renters policy would cover the wedding so i could save that 325. is it wrong to think that everything is coming together so well for a reason? mayb we r meant to b together? also a local restuarant offered to cater my reception and do the decoration and let me use their business and all theyd charge for is the food
what do u think?
2007-05-02 03:15:07 · update #1
Thnx so much for all ur answers so far. I no that i am a highly stressed person. most of my worries r things like i work fulltime and go to school full time. so in order to get all my work hrs i do 3 13 hr shifts and i keep thinking what if i dont ahve enough time with him. were on a waiting list for some apartments and until then my mtoher has offered we could stay w/ her (hopefully well have r apartment) i love my mother dearly but i dont want to b married living in her attic lol. but i worry that were gonna live w/ her for yrs. im just scared that since the wedding is coming together so nicely it could mean r lives r going to b a mess.
2007-05-02 03:30:08 · update #2
I think your stressing yourself out. Sound like things are going together very well. What are you concerned about? It is working out too well? If you are not sure you want to marry him then stop the wedding. If you are sure you want to marry him then stop stressing. Things could be alot worse for you, my bridal shower caught fire two hours before it was going to happen. We had to move location, the church double booked us with another wedding and now we are sharing a day.
Stop stressing if nothing is wrong.
2007-05-02 03:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calm down, Jen, and let your Unca John explain this to you. Remember that BIG ring you were worried about? Many women would have been thrilled for others to see how flashy it is, but not you -you thought it might be a bit too much over the top!
So now, Jen, everything is going too smoothly with the arrangements -kinda makes you wonder when the other shoe is gonna drop, doesn't it? Whereas most other brides would be thrilled to have everything fall together -and under budget, at that!
And don't go looking for angels or devils in the details, either, no matter what other respondents say about God's will. God's will (read all about it in Genesis) was for US to have free will and choice, so it stands to reason that most of what happens is the result of what we do. If not, then what's the point?
Apparently, you've hooked a guy who loves you very much and is unafraid to show his feelings through substantial material expressions. And quite possibly, the fact that everything is moving so well and so quickly has the effect of taking your breath away. Add all that to your natural tendency to question your good fortune and quite naturally, you're in a tizzy.
And I'll just bet you had the experience of something good being taken away from you when you were a kid. And that it happened a bit too often. That's what makes you suspicious when things start to get too good NOW. Your Unca John, here, knows these things.
So what you do is this. STOP consulting the cone-heads like me here on Yahoo and start talking to that man you're about to marry. Tell him you love him, hold him, cry in his arms and confess that you're afraid. Ask him to hold you and help you through it; that's what married people do for each other -if everything is working as it should.
I don't want to see you back here until AFTER the honeymoon, when we'll have a little welcome reception of our own. Now, move along.
Uncle John
2007-05-02 10:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by JSGeare 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think there is such thing as women's intuition and I believe you should go with your gut. I had a short moment where I questioned whether I was doing the right thing, but that was just a moment. I think that much is normal but if the thoughts are continuing, maybe there is something to it. Try to relax and not make too much of it, but if you still have the same thoughts, then maybe you should really reconsider.
2007-05-02 10:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are feeling is apprehension over a big lifestlye change and long term commitment, rather than true "cold feet" and doubt over your feelings for your future hubby. It sounds like all your details are falling into place very nicely, which may be adding to your stress level, since obviously you have been very dilligent about shopping around and checking out options. You may just need to step back now, and prepare yourself to relax a bit and enjoy your day- stop and smell the roses so to speak. Good luck!
2007-05-02 10:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow don't feel guilty. Seems like everything is going right for a reason. You're getting prices and the wedding you want, many many girls would be jealous because they spent much more and got much less. Relax! Congratulations. Enjoy Life!!!!!!
PS - BEAUTIFUL DRESS!
2007-05-02 10:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to get cold feet you are about to start a journey into life that is not all roses! as long as you love each other every thing will work out. Good luck on your marriage.
2007-05-02 10:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always assume that when things fall into place so smoothly it is meant to be and it is God making it soooo easy......
The what If's are very normal,
My advice: Sit back and enjoy all that has been given to you..... Have a beautiful wedding and love your man.....
Congradulations
Hope you have a perfect life together
2007-05-02 10:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by liddo1004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your choice of wedding gown is really lovely....don't worry about a thing....these things happen for a reason, and sometimes we are just not to know why!! but enjoy...you are truly blessed....maybe it's karma...!!
2007-05-02 10:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you expecting a disaster? Be happy that your plans are going smoothly and stop being negative!! This is supposed to be a happy time, just be glad everything is going well for you!
2007-05-02 12:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thought my plans were going smoothly...you really have it made. Don't think of things as going wrong...thank them for going right.
2007-05-02 12:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋