Last night my brother and his fiance, my parent and me and my fiance all went out to dinner... well I am int he process of monving into my house, so last night everything is great and happy and I ask my brother if he could help us move some stuff into my house in a couple of weeks, and he JOKEnly says NO.... so I said JOKEnly, "that's okay I'll ask my brother in-law to help us" and my dad butts in and says to me.... "Cant your brother joke with you" and my dad and my brother just ganged up on me and started yelling at me, and my mom just sat there and let them both talk down to me. I am so upset, my question is what do I do... ihaven't talked to any of them at all today and I feel weird, I don't want to fight with my family I am just so upset. Please advise.
2007-05-02 03:10:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should have screamed, "Well can't I joke right back?" Then I'd have left. They sound like jerks.
2007-05-02 03:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ya Ya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems very immature for a 40 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous guy. The silent remedy is a range of recreation play that has no longer something to do with human being verbal change. everybody that grow to be dependable and thoughtful to you (glaring criteria from a spouse) does no longer again out of a visit you've booked already. also, this being an intimate kinfolk affair he might want to be mature adequate to manage being round your spouse and youngsters in spite of his feeling on your sake. I recommend he appears like a grade schooler complaining that the different youngsters received't play with him for the time of recess. count number your losses and finally end up a real guy.
2016-10-18 05:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by gayman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal. Everyone is so tense about everyone being engaged, and about to be married. Have everyone get back together at a family dinner (preferably at someones house, with a homecooked meal) and explain to your brother and your dad that you were just joking with your brother. I'm sure once you own up and say sorry, everything will be fine. If it's not, atleast you stepped up and said sorry, that's about all you can do.
Good luck =]
2007-05-02 03:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by jesa ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there's more at issue here than just whether or not your siblings can joke with you! Find out what is eating your family. Do all your family members agree with your choice of fiance? They may be insecure about you moving in with him now or where you'rer moving to. Let me know!
2007-05-02 03:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Bountyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad sounds as if he is having trouble letting go of his kids. Be humble and call him and apologize for making a statement that offended him. I am sure he will respond in kind and all will be well. You can do the same with your brother if you want.
2007-05-02 03:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so much missing from that story.this behavior isn't new to you and I am sure you have always allowed them to bully you.I don't know what you can do because there is so much more here to consider,but I never let bullies hurt me or move me to be as them nor do I just allow them to disrespect my space.Stand up for your self and don't be caught up in their anger and inconsideration.Your mom has been exposed to this all her marriage so this isn't new to either of you.I hope you are not marrying a man like your father and brother.I hope you don't be a doormat as your mom.Break the cycle.
2007-05-02 04:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply explain that you think there has been a misunderstanding... that you were joking last night and you sure didn't mean to start such a fight...
(Even though you didn't start the fight, it helps to be the bigger person and take the blame... the important thing is that it gets resolved.)
2007-05-02 03:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mary G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing in my family sometimes, just make sure that you stay away from them a while and let them know that you just cant deal witht them ganging up on you so much
2007-05-02 03:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by debbie v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let go of it for now..take some time to let things cool off. next time you see either of them, let them know what they did and how it made you feel. i know, my dad is the first one to step in if he thinks i said or did something wrong even if i didn't and i'm 46.after i've cooled off, i usually tell him what actually went on and he realizes he needs to stay out of stuff.
2007-05-02 04:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋