my mom says im an ungreatful child and the im way to wild but if she lived one day in my life she would think i was the perfect lil' angel. i have 3 c's in 3 classes and now im grounded BIG time. im doin all the chores in the house and im cleanin, cookin, and doin laundry. and most of the time i cry myself to sleep and so right now I HATE MY MOM!!!!!!! and no 1 understands me, my mom thinks im goin to do the same things she did when she was my age but im NOT her and i never will be. she always judges my friends before she acually knows them. so right now I HATE HER GUTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! plz anwer me i need help!!
2007-05-02 02:43:45 · 8 answers · asked by whit whit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i though my mom was the meanest thing also when i was younger, she wouldn't let me do ANYTHING and i do mean ANYTHING. but she was just trying to protect me and keep my out of trouble which she did a good job at.......alot of the things i was trying to do that i finally got the chance to do when i graduated from highschool wans't at all what i expected so im glad i didn't waste my time then. i mean she could of let me participate in the school activities (ei:dances, hanging with friends, no curfew ..lol..pushing it there) but u know what i mean. just remember its not the end of the world as it seems now to u. have a talk with her to see exactly why she wont let u do the things u want (if they are reasonable). if she gives u the cause i said so answer then she is not fair and never gonna change her mind so just give up till u graduate.
2007-05-02 02:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ma Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom myself but believe it or not I remember feeling the exact same way that you are feeling now.
The thing is, it is your mom's JOB to be like this. I know you probably think that is stupid but I'm serious. You have responsibilities; so does she. Her top priority is making sure you do well. That means in school, at home, and with your friends. I'm not saying she is RIGHT all the time. You may have trouble hearing or believing this right now, but it is NOT easy being a mom. In fact it is one of the hardest things ever. You always want to do the right things, and you're not always sure that you are. But you try.
I agree that she should give your friends a chance before she judges them. My mom did the exact same thing. In fact she made my life h*ll for a while...and I NEVER got a C! I was an honor roll student throughout school yet she still kept the rules pretty strict. It was embarrassing sometimes. I remember truly hating her at one point, and not even wanting to look at her nevermind talk to her.
Now, I wouldn't trade her for anything. She helped me make good decisions, that were in my best interest. It is because of her that I rarely got hurt or in trouble. Don't get me wrong, I had my days and did some stuff I probably shouldn't have but overall I was a pretty good kid. Because of her I was smart about a lot of things I did. I do remember her not trusting me, too...when there was no reason for it. It is VERY frustrating!
The only thing I can suggest is to keep up your end of the stuff around the house, and try to pull up your C's. Don't roll your eyes...if you honestly do the best you can, no one (not even your mom), will be able to say anything.
My mom and I come from 2 completely different places. There are things she will NEVER understand about me, and that I will NEVER understand about her. But if you think about it, the same goes for everyone. You can't truly know where anyone else is coming from. Not 100% anyway. And no one can know what it is like to be you. They never will, for your whole life. Be yourself, do the best that you possibly can. You want that for yourself, right?
2007-05-02 03:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by Maudie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you hate what your mom does and decides and not your mom.
As a child living in her home you are subject to her rules, whether you find them harsh or ridiculous or unfair. The good news is, you won't be a minor child forever and will eventually venture out in the world. In the meantime, try to be positive about your environment and look for the things that are good in your life and focus on those. By the time you leave home you will be a master at keeping a house running smoothly and a wonderful cook, as well as being an honor roll graduate. This is a great time to use to learn about all the things and skills you are going to need to use for the rest of your life and also to sift through ideas, beliefs and opinions held by your parents, keeping some as your own and discarding others. This is the time frame that will end with you becoming an adult and leaving home. Take advantage of it and learn all you can.
You're going to be fine and I'm positive your mother loves you very much and is trying to do what she thinks is best for your well-being and future. Try to get in agreement with her on that and things will go a whole lot smoother at home.
2007-05-02 04:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't hate your mom. Don't ever say that again because she loves you very much and only wants what is best for you.
She sounds like my mom when I was growing up. She always expected perfection from me. A C wasn't good enough; it had to be an A. I did so much around the house but it was never enough. She judged my friends based on the looks of their house (outside) because we were very wealthy. She thought others were under us because they didn't have all materialistic things we had. I grew up feeling the same way as you, crying a lot feeling that she tried to control me.
I did survive and now I am a mother of 3 children whom I love immensely. I find myself repeating some of my mother's behavior only because I want what is best for my kids. However, I don't control them. I let them evolve into who they want to be with my influential supervision.
Your mom loves and cares for you. Maybe you should consult a Guidance councilor and further discuss this with a professional, privately. They can further direct you to rectify this problem which will affect your self esteem. I know that because mine is very low as a result of my upbringing.
I hope everything works out for you. Consult your Guidance councilor at your school.
2007-05-02 02:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Eyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Stuff like this just infuriates me. You're obviously an immature little kid with no appreciation for what your mom does for you. She doesn't HAVE to understand you right now, she just has to be your mom.
Appreciate what you have because you never know when she'll be gone. What would you do if you woke up tomorrow and she was just gone? No dinners, no hugs, no talking to mom or getting advice. You get married without your mom, eventually have kids without her around. Sound good to you? Well, it sucks a lot, because I'm there. I left my mom one day, and she died the next.
You need your mom, and will for years. Feel lucky you have one because so many girls wish theirs was still alive. Grow up.
2007-05-02 04:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she just want the best 4 you but dint say you hate she and iam sorry 4 you but dint cry my mom judges my friends sometimes cause iam a boy and she thinks iam going to run the streets.
2007-05-02 02:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
pull up your grades
by the tone of this rant, i say you are young, and you dont understand how Important your education is
2007-05-02 02:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, definately show her differently! ...get your grades all up and behave accordinly and maturely!
2007-05-02 02:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by somebodysmamasoon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋