All my life I have lived in close proximity to my family. In the past few years most have moved away. At first I was devasted, but the more time I spend without them the more time I dread them coming for a visit. My father recently passed away, he had been quite ill, but he moved more then three years ago. I felt like I said my good byes a long time ago because I went from seeing him everyday to once or twice a year. I feel better not talking with them and I feel guilty about this. I guess I want to know if it's normal to not want contact any longer.
2007-05-02 02:29:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
geez what did your family do?
2007-05-02 02:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dylangirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to put my two cents in here. My husband and I have not had any parents pass away. At one point we did live next to my husband's mother not mom so to speak she was very mean to our children and to the both of us. We choose to move away from them but only 15 minutes. They have never visited us at our home we always had to go there if we choose to see them. But every time we did there was always bad remarks made to our children. My youngest is 9 and has only ever seen them once. Not to be mean about this thing but my husband and I just did not want anymore contact with them because of the neg stuff they were trying to feed our children. My husband called her one last time and told her what she was doing was not right and that he wanted nothing to do with her. She is not to have contact with our family. Things are great this way you don't have all the added stress that goes along with them. We to feel that we have said our goodbyes and that goes for when they pass.
2007-05-02 09:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by mommykisses4you 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. I live in Texas and all of my family lives in Indianapolis. It seems like everytime I get together with them something bad happens. The last time I went to visit I got into a huge argument with one of my aunts so I decided not to go back. Both of my parents are deceased and so there really is no major connection there. They have not made any kind of effort to contact me so I am going to let it go. I know it must be hard for you because it is hard for me. But hang in there. Good luck.
2007-05-02 09:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by anothermauri 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that this may be a reaction to some past trauma regarding your family or even the death of your father. Perhaps everytime you see your relatives, some of the pain from your past resurfaces and it is THAT which you don't want to revisit...not necessarily your family. I think you should consider counseling to deal with your repressed feelings of anxiety. You are only projecting these feelings onto your "family".
2007-05-02 10:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it;a family is a family and is unique in life.You have to regain your family and talk with them frankly.This the ideal moment to do it;they will be happy to be all together.
persons without a family wish one and you have one already.I'm sure they need you.
2007-05-02 09:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you feel guilty about it is because it's natural. we should never stop being in contact with family. in the end, they'll be the only ones there for you
2007-05-02 09:37:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
once they are to old to pork leave em
2007-05-02 09:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by azza s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should keep family close to you
this is Unacceptable
2007-05-02 09:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋