me and my man have been together for like 5 mos i live wint him and we are thinking baout when we are dont with school he wants me to move to NY with him should i got or should we stay????
2007-05-02 02:07:25 · 15 answers · asked by hes my everythin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What happens in New York?
Does he have a job offer there or is he wanting you both to move there just for the thrill.? Or thinks that everyone makes it there? Does he have family there?
Is New York the best place to go based on your major and YOUR potential career?
I am not saying you shouldn't follow, but only do it if you interview and land a job before you move that is going to make you enough money to stay there. Because you never know what happens.
If you are just finishing your undergrad and are 21-23 years old, I would actually let him go first and live on your own for a little while, at least a few months. It would be good for you and make you more independent. Because if the relationship doesn't work out, many gals hop to moving in with the next guy because they have jumped from living with mom and dad to boyfriend's house and they are used to being bailed out if they don't budget correctly and can't cover their utilities, etc. If you do that, and then go back with him and it doesn't work out, you won't be someone feeling trapped. And if it does work out, you will be able to hold your own.
So take the time and figure out what YOU are going to do in New York if you want to go, because nothing is more depressing than one person working and the other person not knowing what to do, and setting their dreams aside and either unemployed or taking a job that is not what they hoped for just to pay the bills. and have a world of regret for what could have been.
Of course it is about compromise in any relationship but you are too young to have to "settle" if you just are fresh out of school with a degree. You have to pay your dues and start at at the bottom of the totem poll, but if you are not where you need to be to succeed in your field at ALL, then priorities need to be reviewed.
2007-05-02 02:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF the guy has a PLAN... and it seems logical.. then you can go if you want.. but if he just wants you guys to hitch hike.. then stay in a motel for a few nights.. try to earn a lil money while ur there.. then i'd say hell no. but just talk about it.. and arrange a plan. i'd say more than likely he doesn't have a plan.. so you probably shouldn't go. plus 5 months.... isn't much to really base a relationship on. but do what your heart desires~!
2007-05-02 02:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...5 months is NOT long enough to discuss moving somewhere. You've been at school and your relationship is still blooming. I would suggest that you "visit" once or twice during the summer to keep the relationship alive, but don't move with him.
2007-05-02 02:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't even hardly know him that well. That's the same way girls heart get so broken so quickly. By rushing too fast. If you move there and you find out he is really a no good person playin you or doin somethin mischeivous, THEN what?
2007-05-02 02:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ryder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months? For Pete's sake, stay! You can't move to a different place with a guy after only five months.
2007-05-02 02:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by *Gerry'sBaby* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 17:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by cavallo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months isn't a very long time...just hang in there & see what happens with time...good luck Sea Ya
Daytripper
2007-05-02 02:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Daytripper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray!
Ask God what to do, He'll give you the best answer!
There are things we can do only once!
Take good care and if you pray with all your heart God will show you somehow what you have to do.
2007-05-02 02:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay here just to give it time. to see if it will work out for you both.5 mon is not to long. give it a bit more time
2007-05-02 02:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats just stupid, you should know this answer YOURSELF, 5 months, 9 times outta 10 its not going to work out between ya's iff you move their trust me that wouldnt work hunni STAY.
you will regret it iff u go
2007-05-02 02:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Babii-Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋