How can I be a better person?

Question

I have asked a few questions here and am now resolved to BEGIN TALKING to this girl I like. But, I need some tips on how to do it, especially so that it seems to be 'friend-to-friend basis' and how to actually come up to her, cause she is often with her friends and I am very shy.

I want to be a brand-new person. Someone who will pursue his love and fight for what he thinks he deserves. I will start tomorrow, hence can you please give me some tips?

Cause I have told her my feeling last year, but she said she just wanna be friends. I've been nice to her though, and she is nice to me too. But, recently she stopped replyin to my text, either because of system error or.. But, I've NEVER have collected the gut to talk to her, esp this year, we talk less and less..

And how about another guy who is after her. He would talk to her and smile at her, she would respons and reply the smile. How to cope? How to make me a better person for her?

Answer 1

This is a little old-fashioned, but I think the only way you can be a better person is to BE YOUR WONDERFUL, SWEET, LOVING SELF!!!!!

Answer 2

This is a difficult one:

The first problem is that it is apparent that she wants to be friends only, while you want more. Well, you can't make someone love you when the feeling is just not there, so be prepared to abandon your idea all-together.

Her statement is reinforced by the fact that she is not replying to your. For whatever reasons it has stopped in the first place, if she really wanted to continue talking to you, she would have made an effort. She didn't, which tells you a lot about how important you are to her. Sorry, I know this hurts.

Apparently there is even another guy, for whom she has smiles and positive responses, whilst she hasn't git any for you.

You seem to take this personal and are looking for the fault in you, and you want to become a "better person for her".

What you seem to forget is the fact that it is not at all about you, people can't force their hearts into a certain direction, if love is not there it is simply not there, and even if you could, becoming a better person for her and somehow making her love you would still be a selfish act and be designed to only fulfill your own needs.

if you really like somebody and want her to be happy, sometimes this means to allow her to love somebody else, if this is what makes her happy.

Tough and painful but true.

Answer 3

Yes you can be the best of the best ever person, means
a complete new person, again means
you have been totally changed, means
you must be ready to make the changes, if yes then
start changing and b`case you want to change, you
yourself has to do the job, right...

Take at least a hour out of your schedule daily and find
non-disturbing lonly place for you alone, be with
your-self for that hour and pass the good time alone,

continue till you know your-self, sounds crazy,
but it works as stated, may take few days to weeks,
or even a month but the final out-come will be,
a new best of the best your-self, the way you,
your-self can not believe,
believe you me and go ahead,

awaiting your-self a newly tailormade,
of-course you

Answer 4

you can find out what the two of you may have in common and work from their and make it a point to speak to her briefly each day. and with out being so sentimental compliment her but don't go over board

Answer 5

You are so emotional