my girlfiend and i have been going out for just over 6 months and she just recenty asked me for a break. she wanted time away from me and i have asked her what she thinks she'll get out of it, why does she want it, does she see us getting back together.
I have been getting mixed answers
she wants me to give her some space
she is only 17 (i am 17 aswell) and is scared of commitment
she is not sure if she wants a relationship
she loves me but is un sure of what she wants
she wants to go hook up with other people to see if she loves me -
if she loves me would she need to?
To me this sounded like easing into a break up.
I have considered many options about the whole thing (causes/effects etc)
-she has found someone else
- she is easing into a break up
- she doesnt love me at all
- she is a bit wild and doesnt want to be restrained to one *** (i know she is wild and has done things such as orals at party's)
i cannot stop thinkinh about and and look forward to ur answers
2007-05-02 00:50:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she HAS found someone else, and you need to move on
2007-05-02 00:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have used a break as a way of breaking up with someone before. One guy was really supportive, he said i could do whatever made me happy, and he let me know that he was always there for me if a needed a friend, and that he would look after me, he also said if i wanted to get back together he wouldn't be weird about it.
Your gf sounds a bit like me, cept orals at parties lol. The best thing you can do is what i mentioned above. And just be her friend. Nothing makes you realise how much you miss being in a relationship with somone than their love and support - even when they're not obliged to give it. Just dont gt obsessive or posseive, let her date other people, it may be hard but you can date other people as well. She may just learn what she had.
2007-05-02 00:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like shes easying into a break up. It sounds like she may have her eye on someone else, and wants to see if she really likes that person or if its simply an attraction.
You have 2 choices - Give her the time she needs without being bitter. Dont bombard her with phone calls or texts etc, don't be jealous and see what happens, if you give her the time she needs like this you will have more chance of her coming back to you without pressure.
2nd Choice - Get in first and break it off with her, in the real world theres no such things a "breaks" you can't take a holiday from your wife, or your family etc, and perhaps you feels that her wanting a break isn't good enough for you. Perhaps your after someone who is all in.
The way I see it, they're the only 2 choices you have - she will decide on the break you just need to decide how you will respond to it, to either minimise damage or a clean break.
Good Luck
2007-05-02 01:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah_Silverstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set her free and if she comes back to you, then you will have no doubts. If you don't, she will go anyway. My feeling is anytime some one wants to move on it is because feelings have waned and grown cold.
If she is doing orals at parties, why do want her in the first place? Are you nuts? What if the woman said marry her, could you trust her?
I doubt it seriously. Stop this insanity before it makes you any crazier. She doesn't love herself, how can she love anyone else? If she does find someone else, good for you, that will be one less problem for you to handle. Don't beat yourself up over her... no one will be good enough for her til she comes to understand life is not about receiving, but about giving..
Which you need to stop doing...don't give her another min of your time or thoughts.. move on, and find someone who can give to you the things you need, like trust and commitment.
2007-05-02 01:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by mybelovedlovesme2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful i think she wants to break up with you. Maybe she is getting tired of being around or probably you are not doing something right. Maybe she found someone new and just want to be away from you so she can be with that person.
Use your brain and think just why your girlfriend wants a break from maybe you a little bit too boring when it comes to certain things.
2007-05-02 01:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say dont worry if its just about her needing time to herself but if she wants to hook up with other people then its not really a good idea to stick around ..to me breaks r jus horrible and eventually youll get used to it and think its no big deal so then u can jus take another and another and then it turns into one of those on and off relationships and then eventualyl youll jus break up ..me n my ex bf of 2 yrs were that kind of couple and its cuz he said he needed a break to c wat else was out there and then he would keep commin back and it was the same thing over and over again until i finally jus asked r we gonna have a seriious relationship and he said he didnt kno so i finally stopped caring and moved on. its hard but jus remember everything happens for a reason ..but hey i mite be wrong maybe its jus her way of realizing if your the one she wants to be with ..give her a little bit of time..dont call or be up her *** ..tell her a break is not talkin to the person or seeing them and then maybe that will make her realize. good luck!
2007-05-02 01:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends who are 18 went through this just last week. She wanted a break, he didn't understand. After a week she met up with him and slept with him and THEN told him she can't be with him but she still loves him and she would like to go on dates but she cannot have a proper relationship with him. It happened to me too but my boyfriend called it off with me. I can really help if you need more help or advice, just email me. xsammy_bx@yahoo.com I'm 17 too so I know exactly what your feeling and thinking right now.
2007-05-02 00:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever her reason, its not good enough and it will never be. You should tell her that its ok for her to take a break, don't call her, just ignore her. She thinks that what she wants but when she sees you don't bother with her, she'll come back pleading. If there's one thing girls can't stand, its rejection.
trust me
2007-05-02 01:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she wants to break up but is either finding it hard to let go or wants to keep her options open. Best advice I can give you is accept the relationship is over and let her go.
2007-05-02 00:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U better leave her alone.
U should know that you can get a better girl who has commitment into a relationship than her.
Dearie,
you have a lot of opportunities to see another girl.
you shouldn't waste that.
I know it's hard especially if you love her much, but it is best to think your own feeling too.
^_^
2007-05-02 00:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by thaBo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she wants to break up but it too cowardly to tell you. In my opinion you should give up on her...you're young....go out and party a little, love will find yoou. Trust me, it happened to me like that!
2007-05-02 00:56:18 · answer #11 · answered by Lise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋