agreed to not make me quit. He has not complained about it at all, but I have tried to smoke away from him...Does this mean I have a green light to smoke more around him...I want to so I can be more myself...should I test it out to see how it goes..I want to smoke around him, cuz I feel like I am two different people when I smoke cigarettes away from him..even though he knows about it and can smell it. I really love him and I want to complelely be myself around him..
2007-05-02 00:35:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think the green light means he loves you just the way you are. He may not like it for health reasons. He sounds like a keeper. I smoke and I can relate to how you feel. There are some people that have a hard time with the smell. I know that smoking is bad for me. However, I limit the number I smoke and where I smoke and everything is fine. Good luck with this.
2007-05-02 00:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by redstripedmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband hated that I smoked, but never made me quit. I however respected the fact that he did not want to smell like a cigarette and would not smoke around him. Eventually, I had enough self control and will power and quit on my own and for myself.
2007-05-02 08:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by deerogre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship won't last because most non-smokers detest the smell, the hassle of being with a smoker, and the way they taste when they kiss.
I once was engaged to a 'every now and then smoker' that rarely smoked around me but it came more and more frequent for him to smoke around me. It turned me off so bad. I finally broke up with him. I have NEVER dated another smoker again! That's a deal breaker. He was the first and last smoker.
Your boyfriend may like you enough to think he can deal with it but chances are he'll get sick of you and the smell/taste.
2007-05-02 10:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your bf has his reasons for not smoking. So you need to ask him if it bothers him to smoke around him. Some people are allergic to smoke or have asthma. If you want to be your self around him, then ask him. But if he prefers you to smoke away from him, you are still being your self, but just respecting his wishes. My husband smokes, and use to smoke in the house, until the children came. And it's a good thing I can breath better (asthma) and our daughter is allergic to smoke.
2007-05-02 09:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by norielorie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with what the others have said, he does sound like a good guy, for not complaining about the smell. Anyway, maybe it would be a good idea if you asked him if it would bother him if you smoked in front of him.
2007-05-02 08:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by gogirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a smoker and I'm all for smokers' rights, but I don't think you should subject your new boyfriend to your second hand smoke just so you can "be yourself." You can be yourself the other 99% of the time when you're not smoking, but please don't smoke around him if he's a non-smoker and doesn't enjoy it...it's really not fair.
2007-05-02 10:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when sitting at your house ask if he minds if you smoke. tell him you are willing to smoke outside if it bothers him. i smoke and my fiance doesnt and he doesnt mind me smoking in the house. however we do have an air purifier and i always have a oil burner going to help eliminate the smell.
2007-05-02 10:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriends a non smoker and put up with my habit for 10 years i subsidise though i smoke away from him then either brush my teeth or eat some gum and freshen up with some deodrant
2007-05-02 07:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he does not like it I would not smoke around him.
Just because he agreed to not make you quit is not a green light to puff away around him.
2007-05-02 09:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
obviously he doesnt mind your smoking or else he wouldve said something.he's giving you a green light to smoke around him.but just dont be smoking like a train.thats a turn off to guys that dont smoke.
2007-05-02 07:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋