I'm 18 and a virgin and my boyfriend isn't, i'm also worried that i won't measue up to his past girlfriends who have all been experienced!
2007-05-01 23:35:43 · 35 answers · asked by Girl Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he will fit
use condoms and birth control
he will give you whatever disease he caught from others if you dont
2007-05-01 23:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Just relax, and yes he will fit inside you. You are designed to have babies so unless he is literally hung like an elephant and deformed no worries.
The fact he is experienced should be a bonus for you so long as he really knows what he is doing. If he is loving and caring he will make sure you are relaxed and have a lot of foreplay before insertion to ensure that you are sufficiently lubricated. Sex should not be painful, it can be if your hymen has not yet broken but that should be a quick sharp pain and can lead to a little bleeding. However if you find that the whole experience is painful something is going wrong, he needs to slow down and take more care.
Best advice is don't rush it.
2007-05-01 23:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Zaksta 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
:D you are going to have sex with a guy, not with a horse.... trust me it will fit! for that part you needn't worry, as for the other part:
if he loves you (make sure that he does before you sleep with him), he will make love to YOU, to the person he admires and loves. how good sex is highly depends on how much do you care for the other person, you try to please the other person, and if you mutually love each other, than it will come naturally. yes, he will compare you to the other girls, but that shouldn't bother you, because if he truly loves you he won't compare your technique, but your love. yes, maybe your first time won't be so great, but the second the third, the forth will, when you get more and more comfortable with the guy, and the experience itself, you can try a hundred different positions, and you might not get to the top, but if you make love to him, and he makes love to you and you two are not just trying to make gymnastics in bed, you'll be fine. yes, maybe he has tried a few things with others, so what? it is the love that counts. love is great not because of how experienced the person is or the circumstances, or the fact that there is nobody at home, or because of the music you put on, the kind of candles you light, it is great because it is between two people who love each other.
(if you are having second thoughts, i advise you to wait until you are 110% sure that it is the right thing to you, and the right guy to do with. you can only loose your virginity once in a lifetime, and there is nothing beyond sex, there is nothing more you can give to someone than your body. don't sleep with him only because he wants you to, if he truly love you, he'll wait for you, if not, then he only wants sex from you.)
2007-05-02 00:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your BF ask to have sex with you? I'm confused about you either of why your thinking of having sex with your boyfriend. With your age at 18, I supposed your still studying. Or a lazy student? Why not worried of your future instead? Are you not worried what your future will be? Like, saying to yourself, could I become a successful doctor, nurse, teacher, etc, etc... You're still too young. Look around you, look at those failured couples, have you ever think of being freightened IF one day you'll become one of them? Give so much value of your life and your future. At anytime you can experience those things when you're at the right age to support your ownself. Needless to say, to become a wife and a mother in the future.
*Oh I'm sorry if this might offend you. Just think it over and over again which you choose: that d!ckhead or your future. Virginity is the most precious thing of a woman, hmmm, it's what I think!
2007-05-01 23:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by ~o0o~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he will fit inside, that is not a problem. The vagina is a muscle and just like any muscle it will stretch. BUT that said please use protection, safe sex everytime. Ask him to take it slow.
Be sure you are doing this for the right reasons because you are truly ready not because your boyfriend has had other partners and wants sex.
2007-05-01 23:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be APBT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...relax. Trying to have sex and being tense isnt a good thing. This will not help matters.
2nd Communicate..tell him your fears, and if he truly cares, he will be respectful.
Use condoms....keep yourself protected
Use lubrication...if you dont think your naturally lubricated enough..get some KY and use it.
Go slow..make him understand this is YOUR first time...Take it slow and easy, so you can enjoy the experience..and NOT be scared.
IF you have ANY doubts...DONT do it....You dont have to have sex unless you WANT to..
As for the past girlfriends...Well they are past gf's for a reason. He is with YOU now...But also communicate this to him..If he doesnt respect you, toss him out on his rear...and find someone who will.
2007-05-01 23:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by Christie E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and enjoy it ... your vag will expand to accommodate him - always assuming he has a big one - although you will need to have some foreplay to get yourself aroused and nicely lubricated otherwise it will hurt!
If he knows you're a virgin, he won't compare you to his other women (unless he's a total ar*e, in which case he's not worth worrying about!) and he should take his time to make sure it's an enjoyable experience for you.
2007-05-01 23:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't worry about him fitting. As long as your aroused enough, your body will produce enough lube, to allow him to slide right in. However i will not lie to you. It will hurt.
But after the first few times it will get better.
Also don't be concerned about measuring up to those other girls.
He kows your a Virgin and should not except some freaky sex kitten.
So when the time comes...just lay down and breath..and let nature take its course.
2007-05-01 23:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by mikahiwatari 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he knows your a virgin he wont expect you to full know what to do but don't worry it comes natrully (or so my GF said) - As for the size issue unless he is hung like a hourse you shouldn't have any problems - but I do suggest you discuss your concerns with him first.
2007-05-01 23:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Soul Reason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is your first time, and if you are scared that he will not fit inside you and you won't measure up to his past, then you are not ready for sex, I see it in your question.
You are nervous and scared, and you need to be calm and relaxed, your first time should be wonderful, not a scary thing.
I was in my twenties and my first boyfriend was huge! And it was my first time, and I was scared, and I was nervous, and it was not right, talk to him and be honest with yourself, if he loves you then he will wait until you are ready.
2007-05-01 23:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The vagina expands so you will be unlikely not to be able to fit him inside you.
Don't worry about being compared to past girlfriendsm I am ssuming he is with you because he love you, just be sure you are making the right decision with the right person.
2007-05-01 23:39:27 · answer #11 · answered by horsegal 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋