I'm curious about this. See, I already told him I don't want anything expensive and I don't really wear rings often anyways. Would it be odd, or wrong, or is it required somehow to just have one ring? It's the one he would propose with. It seems that would be the most special one ever I don't need another.
2007-05-01 22:34:50 · 19 answers · asked by Sandy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ps> He asked me what I wanted. It's not that he's not listening or anything like that. It's just me having trouble making up my mind. I know he would love to spoil me silly given the chance. I want just a tiny, delecate silver band with a moonstone in it maybe. Preferably something that is not expensive. I guesse I'm just wondering if it would be weird to ask this of him, for just one ring. Thank you for all your answers so far.
2007-05-01 22:58:56 · update #1
Listen honey, I'm wearing the same ring that my hubby proposed to me with, and I don't figure I've suffered any. I, too, didn't want fancy schmancy. Didn't want to worry about losing a diamond or scratching the finish either. Hubby told me to pick out what I wanted and I did...a simple gold and silver band, with diamond cuts around the surface. I've had it on my finger since we got engaged, back in September 1976, and I'm not one bit sorry we did it this way. It's all about what YOU want. You've gotta wear it, right? I agree with you, that this one ring represents everything that's special, and you can't improve on perfection. It's YOUR finger. <*)))><
2007-05-01 22:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's perfectly fine to just continue wearing your engagement ring with no wedding band. There's no law saying you MUST have both rings, and lots of people have only a wedding band and no engagement ring, so why not do it the other way around? To make it special, you could maybe get it engraved with a little inscription, some special little saying with the date of your wedding or something like that. I never understood why a woman has to have two rings anyway, though the world thinks it's fine for the man to only have one ring. Do what you like. By the way, I think it's great that you're getting married, but I'm sad that people treat you in a bad, disrespectful way when they find out you're not legally married yet. It's really a sad commentary on our society that in the year 2008, some closed-minded people have nothing better to worry about than whether two good people who love each other and their kids have signed a silly piece of paper yet. Best of luck to you and your family!
2016-05-18 21:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by sharyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even have an engagement ring? Just do a wedding-band. I think that's the special one given your relationship is actually about the marriage, not the day he proposes. I think one ring is a totally reasonable request so just tell him you only want a wedding band and go with him to pick it out(he goes with you to pick his band out too). A wedding band can be anything you want! Good luck!
2007-05-02 02:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just one ring is great if that is what you want. I love my engagement ring so much and could not find a wedding band to match it without us paying a fortune so I decided not to have a wedding band. Then I came up with the idea to get him and engagment ring and for both of us to get matching wedding bands (very inexpensive ones). I think Im gonna wear mine on my left hand thumb. I love thumb rings and have wanted a new one for a long time so this just seems natural to me. (Actually even have a question about that her on yahoo answers.) So just do what you are comfortable with, because it is u who has to wear it.
2007-05-01 23:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am from Germany and would like to tell you that i only wear my wedding band.It is tradition in Germany to wear the engagement ring which in most cases is just a plain ring on the left hand ring-finger.On the day of the wedding this ring gets switched to the right hand ring-finger.You are right the one ring is the the most special.I think it is an American tradition to have an engagement ring with a stone in it. I myself didn't`t see no need for a fancy ring myself.
2007-05-01 22:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Heike P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah...its not odd or wrong. Everyone has their own preference for engagement/wedding rings.
One suggestion..get a set...where the engagement ring and wedding band are usually intertwined together...Like a coupling. That way you get the engagement and wedding band...and it looks like 1 ring. :) This is a great idea if he WANTS to get you a seperate engagement ring.
Another option, if he wants to get an engagement ring and wedding band, is to have the 2 fused together after the wedding...to make one band. Many couples do this...
Whatever you decide is great....My sister had her engagement ring as her wedding band....It was diamonds and emeralds(her birthstone)..So it had a lot of meaning...
Congrats and good luck!
2007-05-01 22:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Christie E 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you! I've been wearing my wedding band only for four years now. I'm not really a jewelry person, and I thought the money could be better spent on things we needed for our new home, so I just leveled with him and told him I didn't want an engagement ring. That made him VERY happy! :)
You should do whatever you're comfortable with. I applaud you for not being materialistic...and something tells me your fiance will too. ;)
Good luck!
2007-05-01 23:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by daynasu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do whatever you like. Don't be ruled by tradition. I know many couples that only have the one ring, whether it be the one used to propose with or the one given on the wedding day.
Do whatever you like, heck the guys only get one ring and no-one is ever concerned with that, are they?
2007-05-01 22:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is o.k. you can have as many as you want to be honest, I know many people that only wear one ring and they don't get any strange looks because of it, do what your heart desires!! two rings just seems to be "norm" these days, but all that matters that you are happy, you could have on ring now and then in the future get a three stone for an anniversary if you want, good luck!!
2007-05-01 22:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by KrIs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having only one ring, however that would be your wedding ring, and you wouldn't be wearing it until you get it at your wedding ceremony.
I've never heard of a moonstone, will have to google it!
Good luck!
2007-05-02 02:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋