i'm 18 and live with my family.i know this is a usual teenage thing but its killing me! lately my mum has started annoying me with all her unreasonable comments and questions. i hate it and soon i will start hating my own mother!please tell me what to do.the way she is with me really sucks.she's always talking to me like i'm lying to her about my classes at night in uni.and also,my boyfriend is muslim (we're indian) and my mother is a racist.she hates muslims (and that's just wrong!!!).in future, i see myself running away from home! i hate living with her!
how do i make things work??
2007-05-01 20:57:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk things out with her?
2007-05-01 21:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by starsandmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, 18 can't run away from home because 18 is an adult so anything 18 does -18 has to own. By a certain age the outcome of our choices will be ours. However, parents will always be older and wiser.
Second, how is it ok for you to hate your mother and not ok for her to be a so-called racist? We do not know if mom is seeing something in this person she does not approve of and 18 is just shifting off to the racial excuse, which would be very manipulative on 18's part. Or, 18 could be right.
You say you are Indian - so what - does 18 realize even that comment is racial? If any of our five sons were to bring a gal home, this wouldn't be an issue. However, if a young lady stepped into our sons life as a person that clearly has a set agenda to rip apart their lives and they insist as an adult - we'd possibly say something but in the end it's their choice.
2007-05-01 23:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously for some reasons you are very impatient ...
You need to slow things down...
Be patient always think that your mother has your concern at heart. Yes you may feel annoyed, however what if you put yourself in her shoe? How would you react? Give her some thought and work things out with her...
There is no point hating your mum.. After all you are in the WORLD because she gave birth to you my DEAR. Without her you are nothing... so for what ever the reason is DO not hate your mum... You will regret it in your later life..
take care
2007-05-01 21:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by trymejames 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to your mum. tell her how you feel. She is only concerned about you and wants to make sure your safe and happy. you never know what might happen in the future as I say to all my friends try to make things work.my mum died 2 years ago and I would give anything to be able to talk to her. even have her ask those annoying questions. Once they are gone they are gone and if they die tommorow how much guilt will you have if you didnt try to make things right and make time for her. Im sure your mum loves you very much and only wants the best for you and probably doesnt realise how you feel.
the best thing to do is talk to her.
2007-05-01 21:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by sharna w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you can really afford to move out on your own and dont always count on your boyfriend, then you have absolutely no choice but to put up with her under her roof til you can. Thats how! Good luck
2007-05-01 21:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to effectively present your arguments. If you can argue coherently, not only will you win the arguments but your frustration and anger will disappear.
2007-05-01 21:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by AZ123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋