Have you ever felt this way or been in a similar situation?

Question

Have you ever felt like you you just don't com first in anyones life, sure people love you & are always saying what a great person you are but no one ever puts you first. No guy has ever made you his number one priority, you always get thought of last.

It doesnt matter how good you are to someone............... no one ever puts you first, its like they care about you but not enough to put you first some one else always comes before you.


I know this is silly but am i thee only one that is going through this?

Answer 1

build a bridge sister and get over this silly issue

Answer 2

Yes, it's sad but it's so true! I can relating with your situation. Yea, they're so unreal, when they tell you how much they care for you, and love you. Deep down they already knows how much you love them and care for them, so they nice to you at the momentary, they said stuffs to you that they are lucky to have you and all the sweetness they said to you, convincing that they are really love you and turned around treating you like craps as if they don't even know you, and you found out that you are in the bottom of their list.
It doesnt matter how good you are to them, they really don't appreciated it! They really don't care about your feeling, so ironics is they knows you so well, but acted as if you are some stranger they just meet. once you find out they're lies to you, they're tried every ways to hurt you, and knowing that you are hurt, hoppingly they not laugh behind your back, for loving them.
Matter of fact is that I am facing with a situation so bitter that I feel that these people are very cold, they don't even has a heart, or a little feeling! Being human we are not perfect, why we have to be punishing on some thing we done in the past, (without knowing what we done) for this much and this long?
I am sorry that you have to go through with what you are
dealing with, it's not easy, and I really feel your pain, but don't know what to tell you, because I am in the same boat.
For tips of the day.

Answer 3

I used to feel that way before. It was like I was always the one willing to go the distance for others, be it literally or figuratively, but no one was willing to do the same for me. It did play on my self-esteem and I started wondering if I meant anything to anyone. The answer, for me, was even though I may not have been that important, I am still living and breathing and I cannot allow things like these to bring me down. So cheer up hunny. Or look at it another way.. maybe they don't put you first cos they think you're absolutely great by yourself and someone else who isn't as great as you are could use their help!

Answer 4

I even have this concept, yet first I ought to describe the information: in accordance to scientists and psychologists, sexuality is desperate via 2 components: genetic code and environmental stimuli. (meaning that your genetics play a factor and your environmental interplay performs a factor.) My theory is that because of fact environmental stimuli performs a factor, that each little thing you adventure without delay relates on your sexuality. in actuality, my theory is that, like evolution, over long classes of time, and an excellent variety of small reports, your sexuality can replace. Now, in my theory it is an extremely very sluggish technique, that's why it may likely be unnoticeable, except you have been presented with a clean concern wherein your sexuality could strengthen right into a proper concern in a clean way. on your case, assembly a guy you're interested in. So what i could inform you is in basic terms, do no longer complication approximately it, you have been a lesbian all your life, and probably you have strengthen into bi, i've got self assurance it is accessible. the two way, i would not complication approximately it. in basic terms stay your life, and do in spite of you think of is appropriate. while you're interested in this guy, see the way it is going. do no longer deny it in basic terms when you consider which you have been a lesbian all this time. wish i ought to help.

Answer 5

You are not silly. If you've lived a little bit and can handle the truth we all can admit that we've been there....Being there isn't what's silly..it's staying there!!!! The problem is not with the other person it's with us...Sometimes we get so caught up with being there and giving so much of ourselves to others we forget about the most important person....US!!! Believe it or not we teach people to mistreat us by the way we treat ourselves...Care enough about yourself to put yourself first...even when others don't and people (guys) will began to take notice....It's up to you to set the bar (Standards) on how you will be treated.....Remember...When We Are Good To Ourselves..Others Will Follow!!!!! Hope this encouraged you...

Answer 6

There is only one person you can constantly rely upon and that is you. Youhave to learn to love and accept yourself before you can learn to love and accept another. Not the other way around. So put yourself first, love yourself, accept yourself as you are, without judgment. If you can do this, when you do this, then you will find others will be attracted to you and you to them because they are real people.

Answer 7

Absoulutely, I feel like this a lot. I feel upset about it. I wish I was like my friends who are married to men who care a great deal about them. I have to be so self reliant all the time. But there's nothing I can do about it. So I cry a bit and get on, doing my best in life.

Answer 8

The question you have asked is absolutely valid and not a silly one.not that you alone experience it every one would have experienced that sort of feeling.

But let me tell you don't have any Expectations at all then you would overcome this feeling, but that doesn't mean you should not show your affection and love..you should be who you are but without or less expectations.

Have a good time........

Answer 9

I am sorry to hear that someone is not treating you like God intended for women to be treated.

Maybe it would be wise to hang out with men that love God and that follow God's directions as how to treat women.

The Most High God's Word instructs men to lay down their lives for their wives!

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Ephesians 5:25-26
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her.

To make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.

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If this is not putting the women first, I don't know what is.

Also it is Not wise to hang out with men that follow the teachings of Muhammed because Muhammed did "Not" hear from the "Real" God.

The Quran treats women as subject to men.

For instance;

Muslim women wear coverings not because it is good for them, but to put the responsibility and blame on them for the inherent, uncontrollable, sexual, immoral, urges that Muslim men have when they see a person of the opposite sex.

I have read this in the Quran and Hadiths, and is totally opposite of the "Real" God's Word!

If you really want to experience love from Love Himself, then I would suggest that you come into the light from out of the darkness and call on the name of the Lord and be saved!

Romans 10:13
For “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”

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Answer 10

i don't think they are not putting you to their number one list... you can't please anyone...siz,,but you're great!=) your lucky many loves you though...be positive...=) just don't expect too much... coz you'll be the one who will be hurt...okay? good luck...God bless