I have been going out with this girl for quite some time now and she tells me she loves me frequently...I can't get myself to tell her I love her back...I don't know why...I'm scared??? I don't know but it's so hard to and it's pissing me off...
2007-05-01 19:27:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're obviously not ready to say it. No big deal. Maybe if she would stop telling you that, it would be easier for you to deal with. Sounds like there's some pressure there. Bottom line, don't say it until you mean it.
2007-05-01 19:33:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are strong words to tell someone, and not everyone feels comfortable with saying it. you probably do love her, but its hard for some people to come around and say it. my husband was actually the first one to tell me "I love you" and I was actually scared of saying it. I always thought that I would sound corny for some reason. if you do everything to let her know you love her, than she should already know even without you telling her. you'll come around when the time is right. if you truly love her with all your heart, just tell her. after all she is the person you have by your side, dont be afraid of the word. I think some people just think after saying that word that things will change, and I have a male friend that wont tell his girl I love you, cause he says hes afraid she'll use that to walk all over him, and he said that hes afraid that he'll end up hurt. everyone ends up hurt now and then, but if something doesnt actually physically hurt you, than I believe you'll be okay. so dont feel bad, you'll say it when you are ready.
2007-05-01 19:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just afraid and it's totally normal.
But if you don't reciprocate the "I love you" soon, she is going to feel that you do not care for her in the same way that she cares for you, and she will leave.
Either just buck up and tell her, or sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Explain that you really care for her and have feelings of love for her, but can't bring yourself to say that you love her because you are afraid of commitment (saying those three words means you are completely committed, no?)
Make sure to emphasize the fact that you really do care for her, or else she could take it the wrong way.
If it were me, and I really did feel love for the person, I would just suck it up and tell them - but if I didn't actually feel that I wanted to say "I love you", I would explain to them that I needed to be sure that it was going to be absolutely true when I said it. I said "I love you" to my boyfriend (of 2 1/2 years) first, and he explained that he wanted to be absolutely sure that he loved me before he said it back - I was a bit disappointed and hurt at first, but I soon realized that he was being honest and when he finally said it, it meant a lot to me.
Best of luck to you!
2007-05-01 19:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need be throwing it around like it's a cheap meanless word. You'll say it when the time is right. I think men already say it too much. Two things men do too much these days, cry and "I love you". You do those too much, and she'll walk all over you. That's like handing her your pants to wear. Nod your head, say "I do too" or "I know" but never ever say it, until your on your death bed
2007-05-01 19:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Douglas G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the absolute worst that could happen if you do say i love you?.......
Think about it......really ask yourself what the worst could be and you will realise that your fear is an intense feeling that is irrational.
Think how good she will feel to hear those words coming from your mouth......she's been waiting for long enough, wouldn't you agree?
Chi Chi x.
2007-05-01 19:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happened last time you told a girl you love her? maybe you had a bad experience. dont rush into something that doesnt feel just right. you will when youre ready.
2007-05-01 19:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Afraid to commit perhaps?
2007-05-01 19:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Buddy Hodor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋