What options do I have in the Army for being a single mother? So holla at me peeps?

Question

I'm in the U.S. Army and I recently found out I am pregnant with my first child. I am still with the father, but he is leaving to Ft. Campbell, which leaves me here in Germany. My MOS (sadly, we dont have alot of places we can get station at.) I am new at this parenthood. I really want to know what options I have before I take another step in my life ( I guess you can say it like that.) P.S. the father doesnt want to be here, he hates germany more than me.

Answer 1

Talk to your First Sergeant.

He/She is required to counsel you on what options and rights you have as well as what your responsibilities are.

You will be given the option of taking an Honorable discharge or continuing with your military service. If you do choose to continu your service you will be a 'dual-military' family and required to have a workable plan on how the child will be cared for if both you and your husband have duty or are deployed.

If you have not been given a medical profile by your doctor go and get one. This will let your chain-of-command know what you can and cannot do. (They probably have been through this before but it is always a good idea to make sure that everything is official.)

BTW - congratulations!

Answer 2

Your options are to get out due to pregnancy, give the baby up for adoption or tough it out. I was in the Air Force. I became a single parent when my daughter was 4 months old. It is difficult. You have to have a good support system. By that I mean the father and family that can take care of the child if you are deployed or sent on an unaccompanied assignment. You have to find good childcare. Get your finances in order. I'm sure (I hope) the father will assist you financially but have money set aside for things like airline tickets if you are tasked to deploy and you have to take the baby to his/her father or have someone fly over to get the baby. Don't expect to get special treatment as a single parent. You will still be expected to perform the same as your co-workers. You have to be strong mentally. . I retired last year. My daughter is 17 and she is a very strong, well adjusted child. It's a tough job but it can be done.

Answer 3

you wuill be given thge option to seperate, but it must be done BEFORE you have the baby. No using up medical bennies to have the child for free and then saying..oopsie, no Family Care Plan, I gotta get out.

As a Single parent, you will have priority for On base Child Care, although infants are always hard to get in, since CDC only have a limited amount fo space for them at any given time.

You MUST have Family Care plan in place. since you are overseas, that means having a short term( like a hour's notice) caregiver who can take the child at any time of the day or night. then you also need a long term care giver, usually a relative, you takes over custodial ship of the child while you are deployed or otherwise inthe field.

Or, you could get married and apply for spousal co location.

additionally, you couls give the father full custody and he'd be the single parent.. but again, allthe same rules apply to him as well.

Answer 4

Not a lot. The military is short on tolerance for things like family. I would suggest that you talk to your CO, see what he can help you with, also any military religious figures (even if you are not religious) might be of some help.

Best of luck, and thank you for serving.

Answer 5

you can have ur baby and the army too don't listen to negative comments..congrats on ur pregnancy!!! i know its gonna be really hard but lots of women do it all the time hey it happens....
hooray for the strong army women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I bet you'll get a big discount on an Abortion.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Suck it up and be the best soldier you can be, isn't that why you joined up?

Answer 8

My suggestion would be to move.

Answer 9

Abortion.