What's between bars and churches?

Question

No it's not a riddle. I am agnostic. I miss the social aspect of church, just not the religious aspect of it. I can't stand going to bars, or getting drunk, any of the "life in the fast lane" kind of stuff, yet I just don't know how else to meet people. Until I was 23, I met people at church and made friends that way. Any ideas on how I can meet people with morals, but not zealously religious either (that means any religion).

Thanks for all the input so far, FYI, I just want to meet friends for now, no dating as I just got out of a serious relationship.

Answer 1

If you find out,tell me! I'm a Pagan so christian church is out,and i hate bars.It's seems the two are alike.You go to church to learn intolerance and you go to the bar to be intolerant.I have been trying online.

Answer 2

I get asked this often by students. Some suggestions...

1. Visit churches on Wed nights
2. Bookstores, esp. with cafes with occasional small bands, like jazz, folk
3. Professional society meetings
4. Have a party, tell who you invite to invite two persons you do not know
5. Jazz clubs (yes, they are bars, but folks seem more civilized in them)


From the source shown below:

1)Join a health club
2)Take a class, any class
3)Go to Museums
4)Got to sporting events
5)Go to Flea Markets and Antique Shows
6)Play a Spor
7)Join a Book Club
8)Join a Singles Group
9)Volunteer
10)Have a Party
11)Learn a craft
12)Join a Business Association
13)Go to High School/College Reunions
14)Get a Dog and Walk Everywhere
15)Go to every Party you are invited to
16)Join an Investment Club
17)Travel
18)Go to seminars
19)Go to Wine Tastings
20)Go skiing, snowmobiling, snowboarding
21)Take a yoga, Tai Chi class
22)Get a new job
23)Join a women's or men's group
24)Take up acting; go to acting workshops, help create scenery.
25)Talk to everyone, everywhere

Answer 3

If you want to meet decent people you might try the local library. That's a good way to meet people who are at least not out in the fast lane, but of course, be careful! Also, I would just say that no matter what your faith background is, I hope some time you find a way to get involved with a group of believers that will just love you. I'm not talking about zealousness or hypocritical people. It's just been my experience that I've never found a greater number of people who honestly care about me than at the small congregation I attend. I also hope you stay close to God while you are searching. I've been a Christian for nearly twenty years and I've spent some time out of church because I was disillusioned. But like I said, I found that there were more people who cared about me in my little church than at any job or social outlet that I was ever able to find. I just mean that was what I found - I don't mean there aren't good people out there. But there really is something to it if you can find someone who is willing to pray for you and actually ask God on your behalf about the things you care about. I know you said you were agnostic. I spent the first twenty-three years of my life as an agnostic, and I had no idea how God was ever going to be able to change that. I thought I was logically, staunchly agnostic and that was that. But eventually God got through to me. Part of how is he saved my brother, who was the biggest Atheist I knew. And I remember "praying" as a little kid, "God, if you can save my brother I'll believe you can save anybody. But I don't want to go to heaven if my whole family doesn't go." Guess what? My brother got saved in 1988. I got saved in 1989, and my other brother and parents got saved in the late '90s. Trust me, we didn't deserve it and if you had told me this was going to happen to us when I was a kid I wouldn't have believed it at all! We were so dysfunctional. But it just turned out to be the sweetest surprise ending a family could ever have. My dad became a Christian in 1998. In 2002 God started waking him up at night giving him entire poems from beginning to end. My dad would type them without knowing what they said. But the poetry changed his life, because he said it answered a lot of questions he had about God. My dad died two years later in 2004. He was such a changed man that I wish you could see his "before" and "after" pictures spiritually speaking. People who knew him could not believe the change that came over him. My hope and prayer is that you find people that will be good, good friends to you like you are hoping. But I also hope that God will reveal Himself to you in such a way that you are just enveloped in His Love. Zealousness doesn't really help if your heart isn't happy. I'll be praying that your heart finds Happiness! God bless you Always!

Answer 4

get involved with any organizations that could use your skills. You will meet like minded people and find some that will be willing to set you up with a nice guy. Also join a gym or sporting event this is alway a good way to meet others.

Answer 5

Find a cool bar. Pass on the clubs and find a nice hole in the wall with a couple of pool tables. Strike up a conversation, you'll meet some interesting folk.

Answer 6

Well between the bar and my church is the health and human service building, a BBQ restaurant, Some houses, An animal clinic, and more houses.

Answer 7

Try a Presbyterian church or as one guy on here said...the frozen chosen...there about as dry as they come...but I think you could have allot more fun in an Evangelical church...the Assemblies of God perhaps

Answer 8

Many churches have close-knit social communities, just keep searching until you find one where you can feel comfortable with the people...

Answer 9

Maybe you could meet people doing some charity work or something like that.

Answer 10

Go to church if you like. Most church goers are in it mostly to socialize anyhow.