Just asking out of interest but why is that whenever a guy treats a girl well he ends up getting hurt...But when a guy treats a girl bad she seems to want the guy more ??
Or as you get older does the novelty of being treated badly wear off ?
2007-05-01 16:50:29 · 17 answers · asked by Shy Brit guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, the million dollar question!! I've wondered this also, and as a girl I'll tell you my honest opinion. I dated a guy who treated me like crap for 6 years.. yeah, 6 years. Now that I'm older and have a bit more experience with relationship I can say that that's NOT something I'd deal with again, and I wonder why I ever did. From what I've seen alot of women do grow out of this, it's usually a maturity thing. Some women like the drama of a bad relationship. Any girl who enjoys getting treated like crap doesn't deserve a good guy anyway because they have little respect for themselves. Also, some girls will stay with assholes if they lose their virginity to them, because it usually creates a big connection in the eyes of the girl.
2007-05-01 17:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here the fact about that. Most guys that are fine and popular and cool are the one who always play games. And girls of course attracted to their looks and think they're tough enough to be their man, while guys who treats the girls right often not so good looking or kinda weird or too "into the girl" and some girls dont like that so they lose interest. But not everyone is like that. Some people are just luckier to find a perfect match than the other.
2007-05-01 17:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by honeyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....is not true that "all nice guys finish last". Most of the "nice" guys I know are happily coupled off and in great relationships.
Secondly, girls often have low self esteem and feel that they have to take the first person who will have them. I know this kind of applied to me at one point in time. I got pretty messed up and in a relationship that was ALL kinds of wrong for me. I don't know the situation you're referring to, however, it's my guess that the girl is probably not "wanting the guy more" but so desperate and insecure. She probably doesn't want him (the bad guy) to leave because she doesn't think she can do any better.
2007-05-01 16:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...story of my life!! I always fall for the bad ones! And I wish I knew why! I think it has something to do with wanting to see just how far they'll go and thinking that we can change them. But yes, I think it does wear off eventually, especially when we're ready to settle down and start thinking about marriage. There's a lot that I would put up with when I was younger, but now I'll kick 'em to the curb quick!
2007-05-01 17:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by oceanspray_bm2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. some women have no self esteem, while others have what is commonly ,thought of as the god complex, in other words they think they can change the men, which they cannot , but they will try , and i am afraid in our society believe that kindness is a sign of weakness , i do not believe that but some people do and no it doesn't always where off w/ age sometimes it gets much worse but hang in there someone will come your way and good luck
2007-05-01 17:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea...I'm more attracted to guys that treat women like they are supposed to be treated. I'm STILL waiting for a guy that will treat me well...I try not to deal with bad guys.
2007-05-01 16:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by ~BuBbLy~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I lyk them b*cusz i feel safe, lyk he has power, `&+ i kno hesz not weak ; or guna let anybody talk about/treat me bad or wutev. but if your talkin` about b*n a a*shole thn i guess itsz cuz you like havin` 2chase `&+ put more effort into the relationship instead of bein` cater`d2 or jus like never having 2do n*e*thing 2keep tha guy around.
And i`m pretty sure it does wear off az time passes but i think there will definetly still be a little bit of it left.
2007-05-01 17:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by vERONiCa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the man who is treating the woman poorly makes her feel like she has no way out and that she could never get someone else. It's all psychological.
2007-05-01 16:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To think about it got attracted to my current boyfriend cause he was a totally @ssh0le, but i knew deep down inside he was a teddy bear which is true. he is like a bear, he can look very mean and scary and roar really loud but at night he is nice a cuddable.
2007-05-01 16:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by i ♥ Food 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women seem to be attracted to self confidence. Bad boys act indifferent to what other people think (because they don't care), and women seem to interpret this indifference as strength.
Nice guys are sometimes too nice for their own good: we never stand up for ourselves; we don't flirt (because it might seem "dirty"); we don't take risks (so we don't ask people out); and, we therefor become predictable (read: "boring").
2007-05-01 16:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋