I try to be nice, easy-going and friendly. But yet women are not attracted to me. I have never had a girlfriend. I am 34 and I am still a virgin. I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck and bald. What is wrong with me? I have no self-esteem and no confidence. But even if I had self-esteem and confidence, women still won't like me. I feel there is no hope for me whatsoever. I really, really want to give up, but at the same time, I want to fall in love. I really do. But I am like kryptonite when it comes to women.
2007-05-01 16:21:27 · 18 answers · asked by NJboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't lose hope!!!!
I know what it feels like to have little or no self-esteem and to be totally unsure of yourself. But you are 34 and you still have many years ahead of you. Put out on an effort to attend group things where you will be able to meet more women. Just don't give up hope! You will know when the right women comes along because she won't see your "big nose, skinny face, long neck and baldness" as any type of flaw, she will love you for you!! Keep on trying to meet new people, and before you know it, the right woman will come along!!
p.s. I know a lot of girls who like bald guys (me too), and it doesn't matter if a man has a big nose. Also, ther is nothing wrong with having a skinny face, and long necks are fine too!!
Have confidence in yourself! Even if you dont feel confident, pretend that you do because then others will be more drawn to you and wanting to talk to you!
Good luck and don't give up!
2007-05-01 16:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by hugh2therescue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not another one of these. You answered your own question: "I have no self-esteem and no confidence".
Women find two things sexy: humor & self-confidence. It sounds like you are so down on yourself that you have neither. People want to have FUN on a date, not share their time with a desperate whiner.
And how do you know that this is true: "But even if I had self-esteem and confidence, women still won't like me."? Keep telling yourself that, and you will remain single forever.
It also helps if you have a life, and that you are doing fun things (hobbies) on your own. If you have a full life, then you seem more attractive when you invite other people to join you. Take a dance class, or something. Plenty of single women there, and not enough single men who like to dance.
It's not your looks or your height, it is the way that you present yourself. If you lack self-confidence, then everyone else will lack confidence in you too.
With women, its all about confidence and sexual tension. Don't try to be the polite, overly "nice guy" type around women. That bores them and gives them the impression that you are trying to be manipulative, because you are too nice to be for real. They want somebody who is not afraid to tease them, and flirt with them sometimes. Be cocky, and make them laugh. It's okay to be a little bit rude when making fun of them, just not all the time, and besides, they'll get over it.
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2007-05-01 23:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already nailed it. You have low self esteem and no confidence. That makes you a dependent not a boyfriend. A lot of us don't have huge self esteem so the last thing we need is a guy we have to constantly prop up and coddle. Stop worrying about your hair and stop criticizing your reflection. While I know that a constant barrage of commercials and movie stars has convinced you and this entire generation of men you need hair enhancements, plastic surgery and penis pills to find a mate, as one of the prospective mates I can tell you this is BS. Didn't you guys laugh at use a few years ago for believing that garbage and starving ourselves to death? Now you’re doing it. Go find a hobby or a job that your good at and stop looking for a girlfriend. Develop some confidence in yourself in some area at least and you will be amazed when a girl you think is out of your league falls into your life. It will happen when you stop being worrying about your looks and start living your life.
2007-05-01 23:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude I am fat and bald from the south, my wife is beautiful from California.... women love confidence in a man. Bold up man. Dont turn into a jerk but self confidence is a magnet.
Looks leave everyone. Being a virgin isnt a crime, its a virtue protect it.... Quit tring to push a chain, be yourself, and by all means get that self esteem up..... You will find her once you stop looking.
Maybe just maybe your looking in the wrong places, get in church, the local gym, and try some volunteer work and see what happens. You want a nice girl hang out where the nice girls are....
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2007-05-01 23:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by drtoolman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree with you. Even the hunch back of notre dame and the beast found their true loves. First of all, confidence and self esteem is EVERYTHING to a woman, so you need to work on that first. Secondly, stop trying so hard, at this point you are probably desperate to find someone and that is a turn off to women and you'll make rookie mistakes with them. Thirdly, the best place to find a woman is somewhere you share a common interest. If you like pottery, join a club, but only do it for interests you are TRULY interested in so you can find a common connection and it isn't fake.
Best Wishes
2007-05-01 23:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have confidence in yourself and don't focus on your looks so much. Nice guys are hard to find. Maybe, you are asking out the wrong girls, try changing the type of girl you ask out. Hot girls are generally snobs, until they grow up and then they are still ignorant. There is hope, just look in different places and see if your friends know anyone they can set u up with. When it is meant to happen, it will and it will be when you least suspect it. I believe there is love out there for everyone.
2007-05-01 23:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Shanna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is you have no confidence. You say if you had it, it wouldn't help, and that proves it right there. If you believe in yourself you'll get the girl every time. Plus, don't want to fall in love, just be out there to make friends. Maybe one friend will fall for you and there will be the potential for a relationship.
2007-05-01 23:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by gimli5878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-esteem and confidence are very important, at least for our age group. Humor is most important to me. Forget about women for a while and concentrate on yourself. Learn to love yourself and then someone else will too. I know that seems cliche, but it turns out to have been very true for me
2007-05-01 23:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't feel that way. honesty. i feel pretty bad about myself sometimes because all my friends are getting asked out and stuff. but i really dont' think its because i'm ugly or anything. i think most people actually care about the inside more than the outside. try to be yourself (: good luck and i confidence and self-esteem really does wonders. you may not think so because you don't have much of it, but it does.
2007-05-01 23:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by ammmmmyy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-01 23:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by jrodbendi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋