So there is this guy who isn't my boyfriend but we've been talking for a couple of months. I'm not a hoe or anything but we ended up having sex on Sunday night, it's something we'd been talking about doing for about 2 weeks and it finally happened Sunday. Today is Tuesday and he hasn't sent a text, called, or IMed me. My question is should I call? And if so when? OR should I just wait for him to call me (i really don't want to I'm a little nervous)? I don't know what to do because he's not my boyfriend or anything! HELP!
2007-05-01 15:58:36 · 9 answers · asked by Nikki7012 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2007-05-01 16:11:09 · update #1
Just a side note...I'm not sitting around sad or depressed that he hasn't called. I am not exactly looking for a relationship, though I am feeling him, I was NOT expecting anything serious but if it were to come up, I wouldn't deny it. I am just wondering if I should call or even expect to hear from him after this experience. Thanks!
2007-05-01 16:13:41 · update #2
I would say it is ok to give him a call tomorrow, but be very casual about it. Did you guys just talk about having sex, or did you talk about having a relationship? Make sure you both have the same ideas in mind before entering any kind of relationship, whether sexual or romantic. Also PLEASE be careful and make sure to protect yourself from any possible diseases!!
2007-05-01 16:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Heather R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not call him! I know it hurts and trust me, I understand. As much as waiting sucks, let him call you. I don't know this guy personally but he sounds like a lot of men that my friends or I have dealt with. It does not matter if he is busy saving the earth, he should at least have the decency to call you after something like that. I bet yall talked all the time before this? Am I right? Call me old fashioned but that is just how I feel! I could be wrong (which I doubt) but he probably is expecting you to call him and if you do, that is just going to make him feel good and boost his ego. So don't even give him the satisfaction. If you really feel that you should call him to get some answers and if it would make you feel better, then go ahead. I wouldn't advise it though. Just take a deep breath, realize you made a mistake, and don't do it again.
2007-05-01 23:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Miss A 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't call him. Wait to see what he does. If he calls---fine.
If not, you can cross him off your list of decent guys. In my opinion, he should've called you by now if the evening you two spent together meant anything at all to him. The more time that elapses between that night and the next time you see or hear from him should tell you what you can expect from him. I think he's already sending you the message: Don't count on me. Don't dwell on this. You deserve someone better don't you think?
2007-05-02 00:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy isn't your boyfriend, but you're having sex with him anyway, and you're wondering why he hasn't called? Girl, you have so trivialized the whole thing that it's meaningless to him. Meanwhile, you better mend some bridges with your boyfriend. Or doesn't he mind if you stray around?
2007-05-01 23:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say but "HE IS NOT THAT INTO YOU". The reasons why he was talking to you for that long was that he was trying to get into your pants. Now that he has, you will never hear from him. Think of this as a silly mistake and move on. HE IS NOT CALLING YOU .
2007-05-01 23:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by tanlaask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would so NOT call him. He is obviously not that into you or he would have sent some kind of small message. I don't know for the life of me why women are so desperate these days....never call a man....have some self respect.
2007-05-02 09:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he already got what he wanted. Unless he wants more, he won't call. Hey, maybe you got what you wanted too. I don't mean to be sexist but that is how guys work.
2007-05-01 23:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by CleoCATra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't call him if he hasn't called you yet.
2007-05-01 23:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Damn hoe. Sheeeeyt.
2007-05-01 23:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by HObbES 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋