My son when he gets mad either from us disaplining him or gets frustrated bangs his head on the wall and hurts himself how would I go about helping him to stop this and find out whats really wrong with him?
2007-05-01 15:46:55 · 14 answers · asked by estep3980 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's almost the same as a child squeeling on the floor. It's just that burst of anger they get and don't know how to deal with. Or it also could be to get attention. Either way it's a battle for power or power struggle. He wants to be right, doesn't get his way and that is how he shows it. You can either ignore him or try to calm him down. However, if you try calming him down, you will have lost the power, so please don't do. He can seem like he is hitting his head pretty hard but will never do it hard enough to cause real harm. Our bodies are made to say enough is enough we were acting violently. In other words we don't like to hurt ourselves.
I wish you the best of luck, if this continues for over a month; be get him checked for autism. Thanks!
2007-05-01 17:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 3⤋
I think it's a phase and you really can't do anything about it, I hope he ain't hitting hard enough to really hurt himself, maybe a little red mark that goes away but nothing serious. My daughter went though this for a couple of months, she would either throw herself down to the floor and cry or if she was close to a walk she would kinda hit her head against it a few times and cry. She did it because she thought it would get my attention more at first I let it then I stopped and she stopped. I think if you show him that it won't get your attention more then maybe he will stop and just go back to crying when he is hurt or mad. I hope that made you feel a little better.
2007-05-01 23:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son, who will turn 2 years old on May 13, also does this. It is called head-banging and u can find more info about it on the web. My son is in speech and physical therapy and both his therapists are concerned about it. They say it is a self-destructive way of soothing himself(he, like your son, will do it if he is angry, frustrated, etc). His physical therapist recommended every time he starts to bang, I should try putting him in his booster seat on the floor, or something of that nature so he CANNOT bang his head. She was just here today, so I am going to try incorporating that into our schedule starting tomorrow. Either way, u should let your son's pediatrician know about this, because it IS a self-destructive behavior that is not healthy or acceptable. Best of luck to you and your boy.
2007-05-01 22:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by lawyergirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor about it. It can be a phase, and normal behavior, but it can also be the start of something more severe.
It needs to be monitored by the pediatrition. My son has some sensory integration issues and head banging is something he does to the point that he has damaged his skull, you can not just ignore it and wait for them to hurt themselves. At the same time, it may just be a normal thing and he is getting attention by it. Its a hard call to make and I feel it is somehting that should be done by a professional.
2007-05-01 23:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cristi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carry a pillow and when he does this put the pillow there and smile and let him know you know he is frustrated but that you are willing to keep him safe even from himself. My grandson did the same thing for awhile and that is what me and his mother would do or we would pick him up and put him in a overstuffed chair and let him go to town. We didn't try to stop it and when he saw we were just trying to help he actually stopped the hand banging.
2007-05-02 00:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by truely human 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my brother is angry he randomly hits his head on the wall, floor, etc. He has CP and has a mind of about a two year old or younger. The way my parents solved it is to put padding all over his room. And if that didnt work they would be there with him and massage him to help him ease. What you cant do is just hold him until the anger subsides and he cools down. (When i say hold, I don't mean pin down, but like hug him, just make sure hes out of reach of biting... )
You should make a DR. appointment as soon as you can and mention the temper tantrums the Dr. may know more...I hope this helps...
2007-05-01 22:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sirena M 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is a red flag for a sensory processing disorder. Call your local Early Intervention office (in yellow pages or your pediatrician can give you the number). They will provide a free consultation with an Occupational Therapist. Trust me..this is what I do for a living and it is not uncommon (nor does it require a psychiatrist/psychologist).
Best wishes!
2007-05-02 01:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by blondbrainserenity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be he is trying to get a reaction from you. Be careful how you respond when he does that. Just like a tantrum you may need to ignore it because he wants to see what you will do, yell, cuddle him cause he got hurt, or no reaction.
2007-05-01 22:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by avonmommyof3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all kids do that cause my little brother did that around the same time but let me tell you my little brother is so violent now and he is 10 yrs so watch out and try to control him now while you can.good luck.
2007-05-01 22:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your doctor what you should do. He may be too young for a psychologist, but I'm sure that the doctor can recommend something.
2007-05-01 22:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋