that im in a better situation she is coming around. her son gets out of prison on friday. she wants him to parole at my home? i feel uncomfortable as she is using me. and i know this. he is considered a sex offender as well. girl 16 him 18 both agreed and he got labled. to find out this girl has done this before and with her own dad. real problem is our family just reunited so im not so sure??? opinions please
2007-05-01 15:34:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't drop the soap!!
2007-05-01 15:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Joker 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
having the problems put in front of you (drop this problem right back where it came from) your sister. to take in this type of problem will and might give you problems for years to come. even though you aren't a sex offender your self. this is a real explosive problem that i would drop real quick. you didn't say if you have any children or not. if so you couldn't legally can't have someone that has this record in your home or near neighbor's children, or school's around you . there is so manny bad things invalved. more bad than good. myself i would back away from this in a heart beat. your sister is asking way to much of you it's as though she is trying to place her dirty laundry with some one else which is lucky you. don't buy into this.you will be permanently hurt. if your sister is mad about it just figure she realy didn' tcare that much in what she is doing to you. she is thinking how she can shed her problem on some one else. doesn't matter who it is. i do hope this will sink in and help you. rhdh20032003@yahoo.com ramona
2007-05-01 15:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by ramona h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you have relationship with your nephew before he got sent away? If so you know if he's going to respect you and honestly make a life for himself. If not then its truly a case of using you. Do you live near a school? A lot of communities have strict restrictions of where labeled offenders may dwell. You should check the rules out before hand if you are considering allowing him to inhabit your home. Another thing, did your nephew do anything to reach out to you for guidance or advice while he was incarcerated? Does he plan to support himself somehow? I probably wouldn't do it, but maybe I'm cold. I guess you have to search your soul and decide what you can live with and go with that decision.
2007-05-01 15:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by ersof59 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she asking that he parole at YOUR home?? Why not hers? You don't want to get in the middle of that situation because she is indeed using you. I'll bet if you decline her offer, she will disappear again. She might be doing you a favor if she is only going to show up when she needs something. Regardless of his age and the girl's age, he will be a registered sex offender. He will be registered at your address and every parent in your town will look at the public registry and see that there is a sex offender at your address. You will probably get stuck with the stigma as well for his screw-up - he ruined his life, don't let your sister strong-arm you into allowing him to mess up yours as well. I believe in helping family, but she hasn't been family to you. She is his mother, let her take care of him if he can't take care of himself.
2007-05-01 16:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh, I dont think I would want a sex offender in my house or in my neborhood. to bad so sad for him, a sex offender is a sex offender. and the name sex offender dosent come with degrees or classes to nebors. If I was your nebor, your house would go up in a blaze... hey I have kids, I dont care what he did! do you want to explane to everyone about this... hey live your life for you. dont let people push you down and that is where it would go.. sorry your sis is really asking for alot... like drugs... just say no!
2007-05-01 15:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by troyboyshotline 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say she hates you I would say she feels uncomfratble around you like she can't be herself my sister hasn't visited me either for 2 years so don't feel left out also my I only met my brother once in my life and he didn't even talk to me. My brother and sister think they can't be thereselves around me because I was raised by differnt people
2007-05-01 15:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by hailez11 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say no to having her son stay with you and make up some stupid long story about why it's not possible. so what if she is your sister
2007-05-01 15:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it was my sibling I'd think i was being used and say politely I'm sorry but i cant help you out
2007-05-01 15:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by anqelaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just looking to us you.
Tell her I'm sorry but, it will not work out
2007-05-01 15:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she hates you??
2007-05-01 15:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by leana:) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋