Been with my girl this lon, recently i've been very jealous and worried that she hangs out with other guys. I feel that i will lose her. But she says she just wants to make friends. I dont want to loose her. I feel i am ready to ask her to be the one. am i jumping ahead of myself or is it not appropirate. im 22 shes 20, weve been together for 2 1/2 yrs. we're still college.
2007-05-01 15:16:42 · 11 answers · asked by vic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't if thats your only reason.just to make sure she doesn't get away?isn't that sorta selfish?just get slow down.when you really REALLY feel like it should be and have more than that reason, then go for it. if you're still going for it, then see what she feels about commitment(just dont ask her directly and straight up,ask about like, other couples or something).good luck and try to do what you really think is best! ^^;
2007-05-01 15:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...
i think that u r doin the right thing, i have a cousin who is 21 in college, and hes gettin married in july. first, i would just take her on a romantic date... u know... a stroll in the park after dinner or somethin, and then propose 2 her during the walk, i u want!!! of course, there is that way where u take her somewhere, like a concert, and during the middle, the person singing asks her will you marry vic!!! dude, do whatever u want, and im sure with what whatever you do, if she likes you, she'll accept. ALSO...
MAKE SURE THAT AFTER U PROPOSE U TALK IT OVER!!!! so many people dont think about this stuff afterwards, and it always goes down the drain. Anyways, good luck man!!! hope shes the one!!!
2007-05-01 15:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by singer1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you shouldn't just propose just to keep her away from guys, for yourself. I mean, how do you think she would feel that you're shielding her from people or the world. And if she is thinking about cheating, than she isn't the right girl to stay with, because she wants to experiment with other people. Don't push yourself or her to get married if you are obviously not completely serious about it.
Getting married young is not the greatest decision either, because you've barely gotten to live yet. You might think you know yourself and what you want, but you haven't even seen the world outside the college life.
2007-05-01 15:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do decide to propose, set the wedding for after you both graduate. It will be less of a financial burden then. To propose go to her favorite outdoor spot if she's into that. Get her fam to help and do it around her family if she's family-oriented. Do not take her to a popular restuarant and do it if she embarasses (spelling?) easily. Make it special, plan it carefully. But don't worry if one thing doesn't work out sometimes its that one thing that she will find the most moving and cherishing. Get mushy if she's a mushy type of guy. You want to her to tell her proposal story with pride. Good luck!!
2007-05-01 15:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra, la tica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't think anyone on a yahoo! answers message board can answer that question in a box with a word limit. but, i do think that if you are jealous of her hanging out with guys, you might not be ready to be engaged or married yet---that's a huge step to take where both people in the relationship must instill their utmost trust in one other. it sounds like you may want to propose to your girlfriend so that you can shield her from hanging out with other men, which is kind of possessive. you need to reach that point where you absolutely 100% trust your girlfriend. if you are doubting whether or not it is the right time to propose, it most likely is not. you will know when the time is right. good luck! :)
2007-05-01 15:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by starbluetwinkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a BIG step. Even getting engaged is a huge step.
COMMUNICATION is important. Sit with her...tell her your thoughts and feelings. Listen to her's. If you both have the same thoughts, feelings and outlook.........go for it. Take a LONG engagement, and get married after college.
Dont rush just because you're afraid of her other friends...Everyone has friends. But if shes with YOU.....its nothing to worry about.
Good luck....
2007-05-01 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Christie E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not jumping the gun. I think i'm going to propose to mine soon, and i've only been with her for like 3 months, but she is the one.
Don't steal my idea, but this is how i'd do it. take her to a body of water (other than a lake... preferably the ocean) and watch the fireworks... once the moment's right, you'll know, and ask her while there are fireworks in her eyes. (In short, don't watch the fireworks... watch them in her eyes.)
Good luck. PS - how was mine?
2007-05-01 15:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't propose just to keep her with you.
Talk to her about what your feeling and when the time is right ask her then.
Good Luck
2007-05-01 15:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwe thats so sweet but you are still young but if you feel like you are ready just take her out to a nice dinner and propose to her. good luck
2007-05-01 15:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by kelbel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should chill for now..she's hanging out with friends, don't let jealously tie you down to her..even if you propose who knows, she will still hang out with other guys...
2007-05-01 15:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by between2rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋