Do I owe the mate I am living with the rest of my life?
2007-05-01 14:50:26 · 7 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I promised my wife and kept the promise.
I'm a widower.
2007-05-01 17:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by robert p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't owe him the rest of your life. Not if you don't want to. But you can be friends forever can't you? Don't we all care for our friends in good times and bad?
If and when one day you realize that it's over between the two of you, maintain a good relationship with him. Who knows, it may be you who would be needing him when you fall ill in the future. Wouldn't you feel better knowing that the man who shared your life in the past takes the time to care for you even when commitments are absent?
Here's a tip: In every relationship, whether personal or social, whether at home or in school or at the work place, strive to leave a GOOD impression on everyone you deal with. You can be very very sure that when one day, you leave them, they'll miss you and they'd be more than willing to be around when you need them.
Goodluck and God bless!
2007-05-01 22:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by mijastely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even in a marriage I suppose there is no law that says you HAVE to take care of your spouse when they're sick but usually when people love each other they would WANT to take care of the one they love.
I don't mean to sound preachy, I realize that when someone is disabled or seriously ill it is a serious commitment to have to take care of them. I saw it happen when my grandparents got old and my mom spent almost all her time taking care of them. I do sympathies with you. Can you hire a nurse or assistant to do most of the care? Does your mate have anyone else that can provide some of his care?
2007-05-01 21:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont "owe" them anything, however if your in a relationship with them, and they are now ill and your asking this question coz you dont want to be with them anymore coz they are sick, the you dont love and care for them as much as you thought.
Dont pretend to care more than you do, it will make things so much worse in the long run. You dont owe them anything but you must be very tactful and empathetic while deciding what to do.
2007-05-01 21:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kira 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem today is that even if you are committed or married, too many people are simply getting a divorce if something inconvenient happens.
Marriage may be an outdated patriarchal institution.
2007-05-01 21:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't unless you love him?Sounds like you don't?But don't break his heart because he is ill.He needs someone.
2007-05-01 21:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by walter_nahbexie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat the hek? iono get da not-bold part of ur question, but to answer ur first one, um.. is U who'll takes care of urself. or ur friends,..
2007-05-01 21:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Toki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋