notice/memo given, emails sent, informed personally and yet there are always a few late comers. Is it a good thing to do by letting them to join in still?
2007-05-01 13:32:30 · 11 answers · asked by curiouscarp88 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
meetings/talks/seminar/lectures
2007-05-01 14:38:24 · update #1
I fess up...having been late too many times myself. It does matter what the occasion is. Is it family, friends or other. The thing about being late has to do with respect, control, conditions, and poor planning. Ultimately one should plan for any conditions. Have respect and regards for the person or event. You probably don't care to grill them at the door. It is your call. You could always have a designated greeter or lock down. You can't change other peoples' bad behavior. Change is for them. I am now on time because I made the change.
P.S. Mine was poor planning.
2007-05-01 14:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by MsHeart 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Today's society is a very busy one. Unfortunately Mom's work full time just as Dad's used to do all by their lonesomes. It all depends on how important the get together is and, most importantly, why some of those who were invited to this get together were late.
Kids, sickness, late home from work. These are just a few of the things that could pose a problem getting to someplace on time. Why make enemies when it may be a friendly get together? Give the latecomers the benefit of the doubt.
If it's a teen or young persons thing, then there are still very good reasons to be late getting someplace. Perhaps they had things to do prior to leaving. In this case, parents could play a big part in late arrivals.
There's an old saying: Better late than never. Throw your latecomers out and it will always be 'never.'
2007-05-01 13:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by pj m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question does not state what they are attending as the other person said. Of course in the United States it is looked upon as being lazy, unthoughtful, inconsiderate or down right rude if you are late for an event. There will always be late comers to some events, but as we get older we have strick actions that comes with tardiness, so we learn our lesson to not do it again. I would make a remark to late comers about their tardiness like "To all the members who have just arrived, I want to emphasize that the meeting started promptly at 10:00 not 10:01 and it would be to your best advantage to arrive on time in the future before you loose the privilege to attend other meetings, Thank you to the members who have arrived promptly, your attendance helps the agenda items to be discussed flow smoothly without interruptions.
2007-05-01 13:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by millineumlaura 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it all depends. you don't want to come across as uptight or a control freak, especially here in california where we are terminallly laid back...
1. if it's a performance, then no admittance after the deadline.
2. if it's a surprise b-day party, no admittance within 300 yards after the deadline.
3. if it's a dance, give it a rest - it's fashionable to be late so as to make a dramatic entrance.
4. if it's dinner, admit but don't hold the food - they can eat what is left...
5. if it's a mandatory business meeting, unless their excuse involves a death, disfigurement or childbirth, fire them.
6. if it's a date with the opposite sex - decide if the person is worth waiting for and then make the appropriate move.
7. if it is a date with the same sex, as in buddies, leave them in the dust, especially if it is a movie.
8. if it is a wedding and the person late is either the bride or groom, wait for 1 hour and then send out the hounds.
9. if it is a child's birthday party, relax and let them arrive as possible - we all know that getting somewhere on time with children can be like herding cats.
10. if it is anything that does not involve a large cash outlay or the coordinated efforts of more than 12 people, just kick back and enjoy a moment of calm, vs. stomping around in impatience or stress.
2007-05-01 13:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by chieko 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
why should the people on time be forced to be interrupted when the late comers cruise in at their leisure? if you are talking about a classroom i would lock the doors at the begining and when someone knocks send them to the office and mark them as truant. if you are talking about a workplace and you are the boss i would post a sign in the breakroom stating that anyone habitually late (hey, sometimes it does happen accidentally) will be sent home without pay for the day for a first offense 2nd 3 days suspension and if ther is a 3rd offense out the door.
2007-05-01 14:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course etiquette teaching if you're on time you're late and if your five minutes you're on time. With that being said; I have to ask if this is formal event? If this an even that requires a timely entrance for registration, housekeeping and not to bother others attending I would say place time is important in the invitation.
2007-05-01 13:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by TFCF Ministry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we invite people for dinner at 7PM, We sit down to eat at 7:15. If they are late, they are late.
2007-05-01 14:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by squeezie_1999 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 minute rule.
If they are not there (where ever you are talking about) let them know in the e-mail, voice thingy,or any contraption that is used to invite, that you will wait for 15, then onward without them.
2007-05-01 13:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you snooze you lose. They should learn how to be on time. If you don't let them join, maybe they'll know next time, otherwise they're just walking all over you.
2007-05-01 13:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by LovelyLady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think vjaxxon outlined it it up quite nicely.
2007-05-01 17:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋