i need help on a guy problem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question

i like this one guy but he dosent know it and i want to tell him but i dont know how i think ill just tell him on the last day of school right before the bell rings then he can have the whole summer to think abbout it but how should i tell him what should i say because i really dont want to mess up my relationship with him as a friend and i went and told his best friend and i dont really trust him not to tell him allthough he swore he wouldent say anything so i dont know what to do help me

i might as well kill myself to night that would be better that faceing him tomorrow ive acually thought about kiling myself over him before but i just couldent leave him with out saying goodbye and im not gonna be all like hey i am goimg to kill myself tonight so i thought i would just say goodbye how stupid would that be and besides he would probably chase after me and try to talk me out of it and i would just start crying and tell him i love him but i couldent do that it would crush him,advice?

Answer 1

First off, know that there is no one worth killing yourself over. There will be a great multitude of bigger decisions in your life that will have a greater impact than this guy ever will.You are precious and worth more than you can ever imagine and I am positive a lot of people care about you! My advise when approaching this from the outside - not knowing anything about you or the other guy: Unless the guy is completely naive, he should be able to recognize you like him. Guys pickup on this every now and then - and your mutual friend probably didn't tell him directly, but probably did hint it to him (guys talk too). I consider you are shy, so I would recommend that you not wait until the end of the day to tell him. The guy is liable to take it lightly and think you are just playing. You should tell him at the beginning of the day or midday, not that you like him right away - start it off slow since you will be nervous. Just start by thanking him (don't start crying while telling him - be honest in telling him though). Thank him for being a good friend and how happy you are that you two met and for the things he does. Even if it is tiny like walking you to class, listening when you had a problem, helping with homework - even for smiling at you. Let him know how these things brightened your day or made a blessing in your life, made you appreciate things more. This way it will get you two talking, maybe even catch him a little off guard (people don't thank people enough these days). This conversation will get him not only talkingwith you but thinking more about you - he may even thank you and tell you the things he is greatful for in you. This should open it enough to tell him how you feel about him, if he hadn't told you by then (and he would be crazy not to have told you by then). Even if your conversation doesn't lead right in to you telling him how you feel about him - at least you have this open conversation - which should go in to the summer. Good luck!