iam 5 weeks pregnant and im very excited, but im scared i wont be a good mum...i dont think im prepared enough.My boyfriend is stressing saying his too young and to get rid of the baby, should i seriously think about abortion or do the right thing and raise the child on my own?
2007-05-01 13:06:46 · 6 answers · asked by scarlettstar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Honey, none of us are ever really ready to have a kid. That's just the way it is - you can't be taught all this stuff, really; you just have to learn it. That being said, there are some things you might want to do:
1. Since your boyfriend sounds rather skittish, now might be a good time to have a serious talk with him and maybe some other adult he respects (his father? your father? a priest?) about the next steps. Having made a life, you both need to seriously think about the consequences. It's certainly not the end of the world no matter what you and he choose to do - babies are fantastic, and some of the best parents I know were the most uncertain going into it.
2. Make contingency plans - what do you do if 'a' happens? or 'b'? In other words, what do you do if your boyfriend stays with you? What do you do if your boyfriend abandons you? Would your parents help? Do you know anybody who's had an abortion in your position? Do you know anybody who's raising a kid by herself? You'll be fine no matter what you decide!
2007-05-01 14:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by John R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every mother has those worries. My baby is Two now & I still worry about it! If all your boyfriend can say is 'get rid of it', forget him & worry about you. Babies change everything!! Your life will never be the same. Some times it's hard & sometimes it's so beautiful you want to burst. It has it's ups & downs like everything else. But it is hard work.
Have you told your parents yet? Sometime parents can be a huge help. If you don't wat to talk to them about it, get in touch with a counciler. Even life line/kids help line. They can tell you what your options are & give you more information so you have the tools to make the right decision for you.
Good Luck.
2007-05-01 14:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you feel in your heart? If you can give your child a good nuturing, loving environment, then keep your child. Don't abort it just because he is not ready to take care of a life. Your child didn't ask to be born! There are tons of parenting books and magazine that can give you advice on almost everything. There are also prenatal classes and parenting classes that you can take. Don't worry, your mother instincts will kick in when your child is born, and possible before when you have an ultrasound and see your baby. Good luck.
2007-05-01 13:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Malena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking about "doing the right thing and raise the child on my own" you seem to know that abortion is wrong. Abortion isn't the answer. You seem very excited about the baby, that is great. If he doesn't want the responsiblity, then forget about him. You'll be a great mom. All moms to be worry that they won't be good at it, it's normal. Good luck! Congratulations on your baby!
2007-05-01 14:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Life is Precious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off how old are you and no dont abort the baby its part of you if ya bf wants it like that tell him to get stuffed he wont be ya greatest acheivment in life the baby you are carrying now will be. you should have told him that he should have thought about that b4 he put it in you.
please keep the baby its the greatest thing ever i had yt first at 21 i am now pregnant with number3 and im only 24 goodluck
2007-05-01 13:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by nomorebabieshaha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, talk to ur bf about this. dont' wrry about urself. u'll make a great mom. try ur best to convince ur bf about staying wit u and helping u raise this child. i don't believe in abortion.
2007-05-01 13:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋