He will be deploying for 15 months (from what I know) Should we wait till comes back or get a juistice of the peace when he gets hi r&r
2007-05-01 13:04:41 · 19 answers · asked by lilricanmami808 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He might not get R&R so if you want to marry him sooner as opposed to later then marry him now. But that will be a long 15
months (as long as the stop gap doesn't make it longer) without your husband. My boyfriend is there now and hasn't been home period since last May and as of today we don't have a discharge date from this tour.
2007-05-01 13:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all up to you! I have a military boyfriend as well, so I can understand where you are coming from. Personally, I would wait! But I also have to move 900 miles away from my home when I tie the knot with my guy. I wouldn't want to get married and move, and then end up in a strange city by myself for over a year. If you guys are willing to put up with 15 months deployment, then you will still love each other and want to be together when he gets back. Plus, they make a lot more money on deployment and think of all the money he could save. You could wait and plan a kick @$$ wedding while he's gone. When you start your marriage, you could have a surplus of money to get started with! But like I said, it's all about what YOU feel- I'm just telling you what I would do!
2007-05-02 02:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by KT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it if you will stay true to him. My wife and I were only married for about four moths before I deployed, although my deployment is only for six months. I am in Iraq now and will be home soon. She married me anyways and now we are expecting our first child in July, which I will be home for. Basically, as long as you do your part and dont sleep around while hes gone there is still hope to have a productive marrage while one person is deployed. You must make sure that you are both strong enough and commited enough to each other to make it work though because it is not all peaches and cream. It can be stressful on both parties at times and if you do not have the commitment to each other it will fall apart and turn into a messy situation. If you did know know, under the soilders and sailors civil relief act you can not divorce a member of the military while they are deployed. Make sure its what you want to do and if so, make it work. Good luck.
2007-05-01 13:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has been really open w u about his past when he had no obligation to do so. It seems to me like he is really trustworthy regardless of what happened. In addition, if u r only talking about masturbating that's very common. According to the Hite Report on Male Sexuality, 43% of men say they masturbated with other males. Almost all grew up straight. I did it a lot w my best friend and at least once w a half dozen other friends, but we all liked girls and all grew up straight. Obviously, seeing and/or touching the other guy's penis is exciting, in the same way watching porn is, but it doesn't mean a guy wants to kiss another guy or feel romantic toward him. If that's all it was, u have nothing to worry about. Ur guy is like almost half the men out there. Like I said, even if it's more, u have a man who is being very open. Don't pass up a good thing. (I'd be more concerned that he is always asking u to marry him. Desperate?) If this is an issue, it would be a good idea to go together and talk out ur concerns w a counselor.
2016-05-18 04:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by zoraida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should talk about it together and see what both of you want. If you both are ready, go ahead and marry. But if you want to wait, look at it this way; you will have more time to plan. My brother and his wife got married the day before he was deployed and she kind of regrets not getting to have the wedding of her dreams. But it is a personal choice. Good luck!
2007-05-04 09:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HJ Thorne is completely right and doesn't deserve those thumbs down! You have no idea how helpful the military assistance and insurance will be to you. Two of my friends were in this same situation. They got married before he was deployed. Because she worked full-time, she put all of the assistance money into a savings account. When he came back 18 months later, they had enough saved up for a two-week honeymoon and a 20% down-payment on a house.
2007-05-02 05:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you or he are thinking about waiting, it is probably because you are not completely sure about getting married. It is hard to start off a life together at a distance, and he is bound to come back changed after the deployment. Wait, and spend more time together when he returns. There is no hurry. Is there? You can be just as faithful to him as a fiancee as you would be as a wife. If you don't think you can remain faithful, then you should definitely wait.
2007-05-01 13:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by RE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if you truly love eachother then go for it. I am an Army wife myself and you can still love someone even if your not married. We've been through 2 deployments each lasting over a year. The thing he will need most is for you to be there for him, be faithful and honest. Do what you feel in your heart.
2007-05-01 13:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think you are ready then go ahead marry him before he leaves. there is not going to be alot of people there and it would be something rush. I suggest you wait , when he comes back you can have the big wedding with the family and friends.
2007-05-05 12:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by tanlaask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Congratulations!
My husband and I got married when he was on leave. We did a long distance relationship and it was tough but it worked.
One thing to consider that you will have certain benfits and can find out info easier if you are his wife. That could be VERY important for you.
Take care and good luck!!
2007-05-01 13:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋