How would you all feel if your parent's had been married for 35 yrs. and if one of them were to pass and your mom/dad came to you asking how would you feel if they had a male/female friend?
My mom asked me today how would I feel if she has a male friend and I couldn't say anything! All I could do was cry because I can't picture my mom with anyone else and don't ever think I will be. It will be a year this July that my dad has been gone and I guess by her asking me that, reality REALLY started to set in. It's been on my mind all day and I still don't know what to say or how to respond.
2007-05-01 12:45:41 · 7 answers · asked by Jen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know it is probably hard to picture your mom with someone else after losing your father. They were together for a long time and it would be weird to me too. That being said your mom deserves to be happy too and I am sure your dad would want the same for her. She was with him for so long she probably has no idea what it is like to be alone, so being alone to her would be just as scary as you seeing her with someone else. I hope in the end everything turns out well for everyone. Just give it some time and things will get easier for all of you.
2007-05-01 12:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by sanityisbeyondme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but just imagine how your Mom feels. After 35 years of having a companion now she is alone. I know she has you and other siblings if there are any, but it is not the same. Your Mom is not forgetting your Dad, she is just trying to fill a void in her life. I know it will be hard but try to work with your Mom. It`s not that she has forgotten your Dad because I`m sure she think of him constantly and always will. If she finds the right man it won`t be the love she shared with your Dad.
2007-05-01 12:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a couple have been really happy in a marriage & one spouce passes away, there is a lonliness & an emptyness in their life. They had a good relationship & miss what they once had. To me, it's a sign their marriage was a good one. That's why your mom wants someone in her life now. NOT to REPLACE your dad, but to fill the hole of emptiness & loneliness. My dad remarried 9 mons. after my mom passed away. They were very happily married & loved one another very much. My dad was devistated & found someone he found could help fill the need for love in his life. My parents were married 24 yrs. when mom died. My Dad's second marriage lasted 35 yrs. I was happy he had someone to help make him happy again. I loved my Mom, I loved my Step Mom. Try to be happy for her. To me it is a sign their marriage was good or she wouldn't consider having someone else in her life. Try to look at it that way - in a GOOD way.
2007-05-01 16:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly it is your moms life and she does have the right to move on. No one is ever going to replace your father but live does go on. She deserves to be happy, don't be selfish
2007-05-01 12:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, it isn't easy but I kept telling myself they have to move on with their life. While losing a parent is hard, your other parent lives....and they are still yours but need someone for them self.
2007-05-01 12:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard, but you have to think of your mom's happiness. i'm sure she's lonely, and needs companionship. and i'm sure your dad wouldn't want her to be lonely. just try to be there for her and good luck.
2007-05-01 12:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she's LONELY
let her date!
2007-05-01 12:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋