Ok, so there is this very pretty girl at my school, and i have a crush on her. However, the problem is that i doubt she even knows, let alone likes me back. I want to go up to her and begin a conversation, but there are a some problems with doing this. First of all, she is basically always with her friends, and i will feel embarressed going up to her and saying something while her friends are right there. Secondly, I am a shy person, and I will feel very pressured when talking to her, and i will also be thinking things like "What if she doesnt like me" or "What if she thinks im weird" or even things like "Even if she does like me, im going to screw it up somehow." Finally, i dont know what to say if i go up to her and try to start a conversation.
Please help me. Thx in advance!
P.S: I've been thinking about just saying "hi" to her everyday and see where it goes from there. If that is a good idea, please tell me. If not, then please tell me a better idea.
2007-05-01 11:28:00 · 22 answers · asked by skxle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im a 13 yr old girl and I know that if someone liked me, I would want them to tell me. What if she likes you and you never tell her and you and her never end up together?? That would be sad. Even if she doesn't like you, girls find it cute when boys have the courage to ask them out. Go for it!!
2007-05-01 11:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by look out sunshine. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi:
What u r experiencing is very normal for a guy your age. You have to look at it this way. Right now you & her have nothing. If you give it a shot & it doesn't work, what will you have? Nothing.
So you have nothing to lose. But if you break through your fear and shyness you have several things to possibly gain.
1. You may hit it off with her and gain a friend or eventually a girlfriend.
2. You may not hit it off, but realize it's not that hard to go up to a girl & say "Hi, I'm Tony. How ya doin?" I've seen you around. What's your name? (Even if you know her name. If she says "buzz off creep" you got nothin. If she says "oh, I'm Ashley", you're off to the races. Either way, you will be developing a skill you can use for the rest of your life. I's called 'breaking the ice'.
3. You'll realize that you are you whether she likes you or not. If you like yourself, some other girl will like you too. It might be this girl, it might not. Either way, you'll realize you have nothing to be embarassed about by saying hi. That's just what guys do. As you do it more, you won't even think about it, and you'll think the guys that are afraid to say hi to girls are funny. It just takes practice.
saying hi is a good way to start, but it won't give you any way to get to know her. Only by introducing yourself and taking a risk can you get the reward. Go for it and I wish you good luck.
2007-05-01 11:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by royride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, go ahead and say hi to her everyday. Eventually she'll notice. But you could be a little more subtle too. I mean just sometime when you see her in the hall just be like, hi! what's up? I don't think she'll think it's weird. Or pull a classic, I've got a question! Ask something like an opinionated question so that you will get an idea on her views. She would probably respect that you care about her ideas.
2007-05-01 11:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think saying hi is a wonderful idea! But when you say hi, remember to stand up straight, look her in the eye and smile. Please do not be sleezy just respectful and cheerful. Oh and not a big grin or else she could feel that you were stalking her, a small twist of the mouth should do it. And be confident! YOu seem like a very sweet guy and if she doesn' say hi and smile back, she probably isn't worth your time. Or she's having a bad day (in that case leave off for a while). : )
2007-05-01 11:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally skip foundation because you're 13 and dont need it everyday :) - If you have dry skin, put your moisturizer on before putting on makeup (make sure it is oil free or it wont mix well with your makeup) - Apply a BB cream or tinted moisturizer, the drug stores have came out with many of these that are affordable. A good one from the drug store is Maybelline dream fresh BB cream ( it doesnt give great coverage but it does what a BB cream needs to do) BB creams correct the skin and helps even out skin tones to make them looking fresh - If you would like you can apply a powder with a coverage, which means not getting a translucent one but one with a colour in it - Apply your mascara to your upper lashes only, you can curl them if you want - Lightly apply some blush on your cheeks - put your favourite lip balm on and you're ready to go!
2016-05-18 03:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat this, man. Key word here is that you're 13. Everyone is shy around girls/guys at 13! Just start saying hi or looking at her and smiling every so often and pretty soon you'll be comfortable enough to strike up a conversation.
You're probably in 8th grade I assume. You have all of high school and all of college and beyond for girls. Don't work yourself up over this one if it doesn't work out, but good luck!
2007-05-01 11:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same exact problem. except i like this really nice guy. i always said hi to him and then i stopped and now i want to start again but i don't know how. plus he has a girlfriend. i think that it is a good idea to start to say hi but try not to do around her friends. also to a start a covo then just ask what she got on a recent test that way the conversation will go somewhere. give it a try and see what happens
2007-05-01 11:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun I think you need a new idea on that one. She may think your odd if you just start saying hey to her all the time. Try to talk to her alone if you can cause I understand how hard it is to talk to someone in front of their friends. Any time and just complent her. On well anything that won't make you sound like a pervert or gay. And just start talking to her more and try to get involved with some of her friends trust me that always helps. Good luck.
2007-05-01 11:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by **JaeAnswers! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have any classes with her you could say that you don't get what the class is talking about and ask her for help then start a conversation from there. but, the main thing that you need to do is gather up your courage, you seem sweet and the shy guys are always the best. good luck! :)
2007-05-01 11:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by special girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try asking her what time it is but make sure ur not wearing a watch or have a phone or n e thing. if u have her in n e of ur classes find out what subject shes good at and see if she would help u. you could even try bumping into her accidentally on purpose. this gives u the chance to talk to her and maybe even get her to notice you. try relaxing u think too much. just act like she's ur friend and that might make it easier to talk to her without freaking out.
2007-05-09 07:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by lola1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋