It is my job to know everyone in the company because I work in the mail room. I've worked there almost 8 years and its been the same. All I ever get is an occasional "hi". Very few ever ask my advise or start a conversation if other people are around. The only time they're friendly is when they need something. The new people will be friendly for about a week or two, then they act like i'm furniture. Sometimes I'll stopoff at a office party to try to start a conversation but then they'll start talking to someone else. Before I started working there I was very popular, in school and other jobs.
2007-05-01 11:23:04 · 12 answers · asked by wisemancumth 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When you start a conversation, is the content more to talk about yourself, or are you trying to draw the other person out. In other words, are you taking a genuine interest in how the other person is doing, finding out what is troubling them, and do you follow up? If you really are doing the latter (without straying too much into their private life), I can't really see why everyone else would be treating you that way (unless they are real snobs.)
Now, if you really are talking about yourself the whole time, or engaging in conversation that isn't going anywhere deeper, most people might find it awkward over time.
Maybe try forging relationships and conversations outside of the context of your immediate work environment (mail room)...like in the breakroom, exercise room, or after company meetings. When you are in the mail room and see people, throw them a quick compliment or an encouraging word if they look down. Simple things like that might turn things around.
Hope this helps
2007-05-08 07:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ken F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, after 8 years I think you should have more friends by now. Maybe you should be more sociable and friendly. Sometimes it takes that in order to make friends. Don't be pushy and annoying, just say hi and smile when you pass people, make good eye contact, spark conversations and small talk. Maybe attend more company functions, organize potlucks or parties, when someone is ill, initiate the get well soon or benevolence cards for everyone to sign etc. I don't know if people at your job are cliquish or if they look down on people that work in lower positions. Some places are so bad like that that there isn't much you can do besides promote or leave.
2007-05-01 11:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Roni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people that in the other arent unfriendly to you. They are pretty busy usually, or have a business like demeanor. Could be the policy.
Actually, you fall into the category a "hey guy" acquaintance. Someone you say, hey or hi to. Someone you know on sight.
Talk to some of them, and ask them for drinks after work. You are allowed networking to socialise, (and get ahead in your company that way).
2007-05-07 05:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by rss_beatty 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe if u started a conversation with someone or show people that u are friendly people must think u don't want to be bothered thats what l would do
2007-05-07 01:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by baker baker 2434 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because of the office hirarchy - royalty doesn't dine with the help. Unfortunately, the mail room is the help in that analogy...
2007-05-07 13:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
may be a hierarcy issue
i know whne ive worked in schools thecleaners say the same about others
the caretakers and cooking staff saythe same about the office staff
office staff say the same thing about the teaching assistants and they say the same about the teachers
2007-05-08 06:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes effort on your part and their part. You can't expect people to always come to you and be friendly. You also have to extend your friendship to them as well. Other wise they may think that you are being aloof with them.
2007-05-06 13:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you're a lackey. an under-job worker. you are a lesser being than the people working above you. you are their mail ***** and they talk about you in such a manner. you will never be respected at work until you work up the balls to ask for a promotion. the people that you think hate you do hate you because they had enough balls to ask for a promotion and they think you're a pansy for not working up the courage.
ps. get some balls and quit bitching about people not liking you
2007-05-01 11:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy R 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Because someone who has been working in the mailroom for eight years isn't the kind of person an ambitious person needs to associate with.
2007-05-05 04:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you a yankee? Are you the only white person there? Something like that.
2007-05-01 13:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tex 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋