2007-05-01 11:14:33 · 28 answers · asked by so_confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever you did ,and I'm assuming it is something forgivable,be sincere. Take the respsibility for your actions. No excuses,no rationalizations,no blaming anyone else. Ask her to forgive you and try to do whatever you can to correct the mess-up. Ask her to give you another chance and tell her to take as long as she needs to be able to talk about it. Tell her you know your behavior didn't reflect it by your actions but she is the most important person in your life. Suggest going to counseling with her to get help to work this out. She is probably not going to want you to touch her and I wouldn't unless you know it's ok. Be sincere and accountable . Pray for guidance from God and ask Him to forgive you and to soften her heart with understanding. If she doesn't want to see you,wait a few days and send a letter saying how you feel and the next day,send flowers. God bless you and I hope this helps.
2007-05-01 11:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by wonder woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you did. I find actions speak louder than words, so you better get to work buddy! Make her a bubble bath with candles and roses and wine (if she drinks) get a card from the hallmark store to say how sorry you are, put out her towel and when she has soaked away her stress from the crap that you pulled give her a massage and touch her gently, do NOT expect sex, if you get it great, but don't give her even a hint that is what you have planned or you will have screwed up more than you did before! Show her you are sorry and that you respect her and love her...don't just say it...words mean nothing without something that backs up that you really mean it! Make her dinner or take her out after she is relaxed and feeling better and whatever you do...don't do whatever it was you did again! Sorry means nothing if you repeat the thing you apologized for!
2007-05-01 11:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it really depends what you mean by "messed up." If you messed up real good there probably aren't words that can help ya, but if its not such a huge deal, say something you don't usually say, or do something sweet that you have NEVER done before. That will usually do it for me!
2007-05-01 11:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by LifeIsPeachy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really messed up, flattery won't get you anywhere. The people above me say that it will but trust me it won't. If you know you messed up, and messed up bad. Then tell her that. Don't grovel, or plead. Simply apologize for messing up, explain your feelings and articulate why and how you messed up, and ask to be forgiven. Don't make empty promises, or say cheesy and false compliments. Be straightforward and honest. And DON'T EVER apologize by trying to justify what you have done. ex. I'm sorry but you...
2007-05-01 11:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with I'm sorry, I'm an ***... That only works once though. If you messed up before you might have to invest a little more time and do the dinner and a movie thing.
2007-05-01 11:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Staley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is "I was wrong" and then do your best to explain why you were wrong to do whatever you did. Helps when this explaination is done after the giving of flowers or a really awesome special gift. Maybe something that you and she have shared together in your relationship or something to remind her of the two of you?
2007-05-01 11:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by jillagig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about buying her a dozen roses each with a cute poem or love quote on it and then with another card saying "i messed up and i'm sorry" here are a few you can use:
I droped a tear in the ocean one day, and the day i find it is the day i will stop loving you
the shortest word for me is I; the sweetest word for me is LOVE; the only word for me is YOU
good luck
2007-05-01 11:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, will you forgive me? That way you can move on from what you messed up on, its better than just saying I'm sorry, because it put the decision on them to forgive you and move on.
2007-05-01 11:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by Nate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by messed up .. but complimenting is always a good thing and so is whispering in her ear! :-) Makes it 10 times better than way.
2007-05-01 11:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a jerk- I have no clue what I was thinking and I completely deserve to have my head flushed down a toilet. Will you forgive me?
If you're the joking type and you say this right, she'll giggle and know you're sincere.
2007-05-01 11:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋