I found out about a week or 2 ago that my sister had a baby. She lives with my dad, my sisters only 17. I don't really get along with anyone in my family. It's like everyone went their own way after my mom and dad got a divorce (about a year ago). Since my sister has had her baby, it's like everyone's trying to 'get back together'. My sister and I don't get along at all and never really have. I want to see my nephew, but she told me that she doesn't want me around her baby. What should I do? I'm thinking about just saying f*ck my whole family and continue to live my life the way that I am, but then what if I end up needing them for something?
2007-05-01 11:06:26 · 7 answers · asked by Lisha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that is a really sticky situation. You need to live your life in a healthy well balanced way. Not for the sake of "you might need your family one day" I think that if your life is a little hectic then you should slow it down and earn the trust of your family once more and then after time your sister might come around. There is never a guarantee but you do it for the hope of reuniting your family. Stay true to yourself and the rest should fall into place. Good luck with your family and maybe when your newphew is older your sister will come around.
2007-05-01 11:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by ASHES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when you are the one trying to salvage a relationship and the other party is not willing. If I were you I would ask her once more or write her a letter telling her how you feel. If she still doesn't come around then like u said fu*k it move on because sometimes families can be your biggest hinderance. You don't want to cut people off like that but sometimes you have to for your own peace of mind. Once you start living your life not tripping off of them then someone is going to try to contact you. That is always how it is. But just love them from a distance and move on. If you have a best friend or someone close to you, you may just have to make them your family until things get better.
Trust me she will need you before you need her. She is young and imature at 17. When life starts to get hard for her being a single mom and not being able to do what her friends do because she is strapped with a baby, she will be calling you.
2007-05-01 18:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. But I don't think there is much you can do about it, if your sister refuses to let you see the baby. Divorce of parents is hard on the entire family. Has your sister let your mother see the baby?
You may try having your dad tell your sister that you would really like to see your nephew. If she refuses after that, then you have done all you can.
2007-05-01 18:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family has some issues to resolve before you start socializing.
Your sister is 17. Get back together with your Dad and you'll see the baby, because she lives with him.
2007-05-01 18:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. You have to ask your self do you want to be in there lives because you care. If you just want to see the baby then tell her. If you want to start getting along then tell her. If she says no at first. Don't feel bad and don't take it personally. She just had a baby and she's only 17 it might be to much for her to handle. Try again later. It might take weeks ou it might take years. If you care at all don't give up.
2007-05-01 19:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Alexa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you suck up and tolerate your family as they are or you go your separte ways for good. As of right now your sister doesn't want you around her baby. That is HER child and she gets to call the shots as to whom she wants around him, not you.
2007-05-01 18:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you really want to see your nephew...keep in touch with your family....whatever you are doing or saying from now on...make sure its positive so that your family 'wants' you to be in their life. do you want to be in theirs?
2007-05-01 18:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋