I know that sex is suppose to be very painful the first time, but i don't want our honeymoon to be all about trying to have sex, i want to be able to enjoy it (pleasurable). Should i have sex before i get married so we can get right down to it, or should i wait until the honeymoon, or is there any other way to make it to where its not so painful. i just don't want him to think the honeymoon sucked becuz we couldn't really have sex.(he's not a virgin) WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2007-05-01 10:56:15 · 8 answers · asked by Chloe06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's great you are still a virgin - it will make your honeymoon even more special!
First, decide on your method of birth control and see a doctor if you haven't already. Women can and do get pregnant the first time they have sex.
Second, bring some KY jelly or other lubricant along.
Third, first time intercourse is not always painful. If you take your time and wait until you are 'ready' [ had lots of foreplay and have started 'lubricating' in your vagina ] you will probably be just fine.
2007-05-01 11:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not painful for everyone and painful is not really the word.
I'd say go slow. If he's waited for you, he's probably willing to give you what you need. Once you've broken your hymen, the pain should cease. If your honeymoon is longer than a few hours, you should be just fine in the enjoyment department.
2007-05-01 11:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by MA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should discuss it with him and see his stand point on it... if thats what you want to do, I dont see a problem with it. But if you want to wait.. theres no problem with that either. Talk to him and see what he is most comfortable with... and take into consideration what you want to do as well. It is very painful, but theres no need to rush it either. Plus you dont wanna be walking down the aisle all funny! LOL , just kidding! Once again, congrats on the wedding!! Good luck!
2007-05-01 11:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about your fears . If you can't talk to him now how will you once your married ? It will only hurt a short time if it is done slowly and gently . Let him know your fears . He loves you and will understand how to make your first time so good you wonder why you ever worried . Have a great life together .
2007-05-01 11:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a few drinks and it won't be so painful ... I say wait for the honeymoon - you've already made it this far ... it's not like he's killing you ... relax and take things slow ... he'll be more than understanding ... he'll be your HUSBAND ... !!!
2007-05-01 11:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax - the more you stress about it the more it hurts. If you are caught up in the moment and have plenty of foreplay you might not even notice it.
2007-05-01 11:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are many ways to make it not so painful for you.. and going slow is one of them... you being on top the first time is a good one... and he should know it is your first time too..
2007-05-01 11:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by fred Flintstone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he isn't , why shoud you be ?????????????
2007-05-01 11:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by goldeneat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋