Me and my boyfriend of 2 years and 3 months broke up on Easter and he hasn't even called me or anything. I tryed texting him saying that I hope he will be safe and that I still love him but no response. He is in the Army. He joined last summer. I tryed to make it work and he called and stuff but I got really mad at him because I called him to wish him a happy Easter and he was being weird. I think he was actually trying to ask if we could take a break? Will I got mad and hung up on him but then was like oh ****! what did I just do! So I call him back and he says he just wants to be friends but will always love me. I just don't understand how he could do this after 2 years! I'm glad I'm still a virgin. It was hard because of the distance and he still has 3 years left in the Army but geez my heart got broken and I mean shattered. Plus I begged him to not do this which I wish I didn't because I'm not like that but I was having an emotional week.
2007-05-01 09:38:21 · 6 answers · asked by tryingtolive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was my first boyfriend ever and I loved him but should I move on? it has been a month since all hell broke lose.. what should I do? should I give back his stuff that I have?
2007-05-01 09:39:18 · update #1
I didn't want this to happen.. we were such good friends and he loves me.. but even if we did get back together I will still be alone for 3 more years! I just don't know what to do! and checking out other guys feels weird..
2007-05-01 09:40:28 · update #2
oh, hun, i'm so sorry....
everyone has a first love, and most of us don't stay with them, but it is very painful when it ends. u will get over it eventually, u just need to give it some time.
especially if he's in the army right now, all the stuff he can be going thru, it may have made things hard and changed his mind about the whole world. this is so hard, sweetie, go talk to your girlfriends and have a long cry.
hugs, brit
2007-05-01 09:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Britney J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to move on. Army boys usually have to cut ties at home because they need to focus on their work. If he's being shot at, you don't want him being distracted by the fact that you were mad at him. Relationship troubles seem small when they're in combat, or even still in training.
Give yourself some time to get over him before looking for someone else. Looking at other people will feel weird for a while, but that's good. Don't attach yourself to someone just to get over him - you'll never be able to grow as an individual if you do that.
2007-05-01 16:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like unfortunately it's time to move on. He has his mind on other things and with being in the military it doesn't leave him time for anything else. I know your heart is broken and since he's your first love, that's why it's the hardest. I thought when I had my first serious relationship I would absolutely DIE when he broke it off with me, but I learned after dating over and over, it teaches you what you want and what you don't want, you know? I've been in and out of the dating game, and now I'm in a wonderful relationship. Give yourself some time to get over some things. It will take awhile, but eventually you'll get tired of feeling this way and you'll want to go and do things with friends! Good luck!!
2007-05-01 16:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do if he just wants to be friends. You can't make someone love you. You're just going to have to move on. Maybe it's for the best since he's far away and won't be able to be with you. Long distance relationships almost never work. Feel better, time heals a broken heart.
2007-05-01 16:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how u feel n i am sorry that it happened but i can resure u that he has a good reson to do wat he did .there is nothing rong wit u .u did ur best but i must comment on u keeping ur virginity because i almost lost mine about two weeks back.but somehow some where i think he did something he knew he could not 4give =him.but this doesnot alloy corespondent.so can u send me a mail sometime n lets talk.there so much i wan ask cause i went or am still going trough something like wat u r going tru.but we can chat sometime.check the link on me then double click only IF u want to.
2007-05-01 16:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by george 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to add to your heartache....but it sounds like he found someone else who can actually be with him. If he had nobody to help take up his "heartache time" he would've called you by now. But he's not lonely....so why should you be? It's a lesson learned. Move on sweetie. It'll be hard...but there will be more. I swear!
2007-05-01 16:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by malibutan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋