Doesn't my MIL realize my husband and I will be the ones to take care or her and her husband one day? lol You'd think that would be enough for her to at least be genuinely nice to me. She's very nice to my face but behind my back...O lord that woman can be evil! (yes I'm venting!) She has 3 grandchildren (our kids) that would love to be taken to get ice cream or to the mall, park, ect! (We live w/in 2 blocks of one another) She thinks it's a burden she watches them one hour a day until we get home from work! Ok....any magic potion out there I can put in her tea to make this woman behave????
Any tips from you wise women would be appreciated!!!!
2007-05-01 08:34:31 · 12 answers · asked by Lakin J 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you dont want to start a war with your mil ....do wut they all say works...kill her with kindness!
2007-05-01 08:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah act like you feel her excruciating pain but cut her off nicely or she probably won't be quite after you giving her attention....And laugh like hell when you get home...All she wants is to be treasured for the one hour that she cares for the children..TRUST ME..
Buy her a gift once in while even though you feel she is just being totally immature...Tell her how much you appreciate her help..she'll melt or at least act like she melts which will give her no other choice but to be a little nicer..NEVER Indian give or complain about how nice or how much you have put up with her criticism.....good luck..SMILE
2007-05-01 15:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! How appreciated are you making her feel for that time? One hour a day for three kids is a bit of work that she's committed to. If she's feeling burdened you and DH had better start making sure she knows how much you two appreciate the help before you find yourselves having to find and pay for other daycare.
2007-05-01 23:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women are going to have M.I.L. problems till the end of time..there is no way to change an evil mil...believe me..i have tried..what i would do is get someone else to watch the kids for that one hour and see her reaction...i am in the same exact position as you..im the dreaded daughter in law that stole the son away...and to beat it all..we live about 20 yards from one another..in the same bottom..and it IS as bad as it seems..and if i try to talk to my hubby about her he gets all festered up and creates a fight out of it..(yeah.im venting too)...but seriously!!..there is no way to change an evil M.I.L....
2007-05-01 15:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by wvchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a different sitter. And whenever she complains about
the kids not coming to see her tell her she should have
thought about that before complaining about having to
watch them for just an hour per day.
2007-05-01 15:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i could deal with your mother in law. my mother in law is worse she stole from me an my husband an 2 yr old son. on the other hand your mother in law sounds like my mom. my own mother wont even watch my son. i just let her be that way. my favorite saying is evertything happens for a reason. an god will look down on them an she will realize what she is doing wrong. i really dont think i could live that close to my own mother let alone my mother in law lol.. well i wish you good luck
2007-05-01 15:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by CcNDcInLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound weird, but if you ask her opinion on some things (of course, things that you don't care about one way or the other) she will become sweetness and light to you.
Overcome the temptation to be mean to her, as your children are watching and they will return the ill-favor to you later, long after she's dead and gone.
Trust me on this.
2007-05-01 15:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by nora22000 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband talk to her. He must be nice but very firm. And even after that he may have to continue that talk with her til she finally sees "the light". Good luck! Took several yrs here! But finally LAST week...she saw the light!
2007-05-01 15:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels taken advantage of. are you compensating her for watching your kids, or is she just doing it out of the kindness of her heart? you should make it a point that you appreciate what she does for you while you are at work, and maybe the gratitude will come full circle in time. give it a shot.
2007-05-01 15:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bobby L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop waiting for her to change. Live your life with your husband and kids. Don't let her get to u.
2007-05-01 15:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has raised her children why is she raising yours? I can hear it now......Find a stay home mom who needs the extra cash......I bet once they are gone she will come running.....I can hear the wheels squealing.
2007-05-01 15:39:42 · answer #11 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋