Do you think moms should stay at home with their kids?

Question

I'm a stay at home mom. I think all moms should stay at home with their young children. I think its very important for a child to know that their mommy or daddy will ALWAYS be there for them. I sets them up for a good relationship with their parents in the future. I think that fathers who don't make enough money for their wives to stay at home are lazy and incompetant. There is just no excuse if you ask me, a man should be a man and support his family. I understand moms working if there is a specific legitamit money situation. But I think if they are just working because they want to work it is selfish, and they don't care about their childrens development. I think its all on the father though really, he should make enough money so the mom can stay home. If he does make the money and the mom wants to work anyway then its all on her...what does everyone else think about mothers working?? I don't want to make any one angry...its just the way I see it. I want to know why you might think

that its okay to work and leave your baby at a daycare with strangers or grandparents who don't really want to take care of a baby everyday. I just want to know how that is justifiable??

I did say that I understand certain curcumstances that happen. Single moms do the best they can there is no doubt. I'm just saying that if it is at all possible to stay at home and the mother doesn't...I think that is selfish and wanted to know what others think too. I tried hard to clarify that I'm not trying to make anyone agry or judge, I just don't get how you can leave your kid if you don't absolutly have to.

Answer 1

I am a stay at home Mom, but not by choice. I love all of my children and I feel I am their for them when they need me. I need to work to help supplement my husbands income. However I am unable to work and don't know if I will be able to return to work at this point.

I do not have a "Old school" mentality. I have said before I feel that it is important to have your own personality not to just be "Mommy". I feel the best way to be a "full" person you need to be "Mommy", "Wife", "Sister", "Daughter" & "Carrie". I feel every one needs to lead a life that is best for them; and fulfill them self by being all facets of there life.

I don't think you are putting anyone down however, I fill you may be a little closed minded.

As for the wife of a military man. I know they don't make much. I praise you for making it on just his income. I have been there. I was in the service myself and know how hard it is to make it on just that income and have children.

Answer 2

I stay at home with my two boys during the day. Both under 3 years old. My husband makes enough to keep a roof over our heads and all of our other needs met. I do choose to work at night for a few hours because i enjoy it. I've always felt everyone should have some sort of job out of the house even if it is part time like mine. It keeps you feeling somewhat independent instead of a stay at home mom or dad. It gives you a chance to get away from the house, spouse and children which in turn is good for everyone in the family. I'm lucky that I don't have to put my children in daycare, most parents I don't think want to. But sometimes it is the only option. Not everyone has a husband that can make enough money to pay all their bills. Its getting harder for people to get by these days and a man should be given more respect for earning a modest income and having a wife that also has to work. He probably gets to spend more time with his family if his wife is working. I would worry more about the workaholic fathers that don't see their children as much. I look at them as lazy and incompetent towards their family.

Answer 3

I've done both. I worked right upto having my son 13 years ago, then stayed at home with him.Then i had 2 more kids and still stayed home. Then after i had my 4th my husband left, so i had to get a job and pay the bills. I was lucky that i took my youngest to work with me, then had to put her in nursery 2 days a week. Now theyre all at school .I started my own business over a year ago, so just work 9.30 am till 3.30pm so can be home for them. I missed being able to be at home with my youngest child. It was heartbreaking having to take her to nursery and pre-school. The worst thing is school holidays. When my other kids were off we had lovely lazy days together all summer. Now i have to work most of the hols, and the kids are farmed out to various friends and relations, or come to work with me! Given the choice, i would be a stay-at-home mum like a shot, without a doubt. You can NEVER ever get back the time you lose with your kids, and it is so precious. Please don't lose the joy of their first teeth, their first step, even someone else potty training them seems wrong to me.And when they're older they need you just as much for things. The fact that youre there when they come in makes them feel secure. All these things can be missed. Just the time spent taking them out and walking with them is wonderful. Appreciate it!

Answer 4

I am a stay at home mom and i don't hold it against other mom's who want to work, not that they have too, cause they want to--there is nothing wrong with that. Because everyone has dreams of what they want to do in life and you only live once, Some mom's dreams maybe to have kids and still work, cause they enjoy there job. And to me that is making there child realize that they to can have there dream and a family and it's ok. My dream was to stay at home and raise my kids while they are still young, but once they start school, I plan on going to work, just cause I will be bored at home by myself, but I will only work part time. So don't judge others just cause they don't view the same way you do.

Answer 5

i love being a stay at home mom, however, i dont believe its right for the man to be the sole source of income, especially if hes not getting paid enough to support the whole family, bills, etc. I believe in a case like that the mother should also work, because its not fair for the man to take full responsibility, the reason im a stay at home mom is because my husband is military, and he gets deployed every other year, and i go back home, so theres no point in getting a job for so many months then just quit and leave, plus he makes good money for what hes doing,when hes deployed that is... but when we find a place where well be for awhile and not get deployed ever other year, id like to get a job to help him bring in the income so hes not bustin his *** on his own, because believe it or not, military doesnt make that much money no matter what any of you think

Answer 6

I think if a mom wants to stay home for the first year it's okay. I also think though if you are raising a little girl that the mom should have a desent job and teach her, that she needs to know that she can hold her owne ground and doesn't need a anyone when she get's older. I am a mother of three boy's
and I'm a stay at home mom for the past 10 years.

Answer 7

First of all I think that it is very wrong of you to judge other people when you are not in their situation. I am a mother of two and I work because I have to. My husband does not make enough money to support our family and in no way is he lazy and incompetant. He works hard, 10 hours a day out in the sun trying to put food on the table and a roof over our head. I tried to be a stay at home mom and it did not work out because we just didn't have enough money. We have cut out all of the un-nessasary expenses and we are still struggling. I would love to be a stay at home mom but just can't. I also think that every woman has the right to work if she wants to. I believe that women are amazing people that can handle having a job and being a fantastic mom also. I don't think that just because I am at work all day that my children are not getting the love and attention that they deserve. They are both very bright and very smart. My oldest is three and can already write her own name and is learning to write other things. That is only because I took the time to teach her. I know plenty of stay at home parents that stick their children in front of the t.v. all day so that they can do whatever they want to do. Just because you are staying home with your kids doesn't mean that your are always doing right by your kids. I believe that it is not the amount of time that you spend with your children, it is what you do with your children while you are together. As long as you are teaching your children everything they need to know to become responsible, caring, loving adults is does not matter whether you spend 24 hours with them during the day or only 6.

Answer 8

I think mom's should stay at home if the WANT to. Money should not be the hold back if that is what the mom wants. It's a sad society that it's not a choice for everyone.

Now if she wants to work she should. How effective is mom going to be if she is not happy. I stay home because I want to. I like it and it works best for my family. Not everyone is like me and wow how boring would it be if that were the case... It's not selfish at all imo.

Answer 9

Im a stay at home mom too!!! My husband works his BUTT off...I feel bad and have offered to get a job after our third baby is born, but only if he can stay home with the kids...I dont want to put my little ones in a daycare with a bunch of other kids and adults that dont have the same love for them as their parents do ...also becuase I feel that we made the babies and it is our responsibility to raise them...my mom stayed home with all her kids, as did her mother..maybe im old fashioned, but that is the life I truly want..I want to stay home with my babies and spend my time picking up toys, changing diapers, cooking, cleaning, and playing games...watching CARS 3 times a day to the point I know every line in the movie!! LOL...to me it as all worth it and they have the added security knowing that mommy is here whenever they need her...my husband feels the same and has said he would work 3 jobs if he had to...now once my kids are in school I plan on getting a job again..but then again they wont be home for me to look after so I will need something to occupy my mind..LOL....I dont think badly of parents that go back to work...its their decision and that is what they feel is best..and to be honest there are families out there that both parents work a couple of jobs to get by..in their situation they have no choice. And you have single mothers and fathers who have no choice but to work... But..now this is just my opinion (and we all have them) I feel that a child that has a mommy or daddy at home to raise them thrives more so than a child that is put in daycare all the time

Answer 10

My dad works his butt off and has ever since he married my momwhen he was 18.
At first they had plenty of money, but when I was about 2 prices went up and we moved and blah blah blah, my mom had to get a job.

No he isn't lazy. No he isn't incompetant. No me and my bro don't have a bad relationship with our parents, our relationship with them is GREAT.

There is nothing wrong with babysitters or daycares that are good and reliable. Just because you have the luxury of being able to stay home with your child doesn't mean every body does. And what sign is that showing a young girl anyways? "A womans place is in the home, in the kitchen and with the kids" uh, no. If a woman wants a job then she should be able to get one, even if she doesnt NEED to have one.

Not all women can stand being with kids 24/7 and never having ADULT interaction.

You give stay at home mothers a bad name.