Me: What do you think of me?
Him: How do you mean, you have to be more accurate?
Me: What am i to you?
Him: You are a friend of mine, we hang out every so often.. but before i say more tell me what is on your mind and why it is bothering you? You can talk to me anytime.
Me: It jut seemed like i was the side girl. Give her a bit of attention to keep her there, call her once in a blue moon just for sex, then leave until you need her again. I just didn't want you to see me like that.
Him: I never call you for sex you are always the one that calls me... you cant get angry at me for that, i never call you because of the age thing i know that if you call me then that is your choice. and when you do i figure its partly sexualy related and you know it is, i could be sleazy but i like to thik im a gentleman... i remember i picked you and your friends up in the middle of town in the middle of the night to make sure you got home safely, i do look out for you... the slight age thing is strange, but whenever you called me i always treated you with the respect you deserved and enjoy your company and conversation and i hope im the same..
Him: Are you going to message back
Me: Im not angry i only wanted to know where i stood with you. i call you because you make me happy not because i want sex, i know you look out for me and im greatful... the age thing is a bump in the road but thousands of people can look past that and yes i enjoy talking to you.
Me: Are you going to message me back
Him: Goodnight, dont stress :-)
Me: Goodnight
2007-05-01 07:51:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This sounds like some similar situations I've had in the past. He likes you, but will never be your boyfriend because he's either the type of guy that will be embarasses by you or because he just is the type that can't have a girlfriend. That really sucks though. I hope it works out!
2007-05-01 07:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by iansbaby17 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you look at his first response (Second line) it tells me that he's avoiding the question momentarily. The second response shows me exactly what's going on. He gave you a little bit of info "You are a friend of mine, we hang out every so often" but he wasn't very clear about what he meant. At that point he still isn't answering your question. He's waiting for you to say something that he can twist so that he can keep the upper hand on you. When you said that you felt like the side girl, he used that against you "WHAT??? How could you accuse me of being such a bad person" type of thing. Then YOU'RE the bad person all of a sudden. If he really cared about you, he would have read that you're feeling used and he would have sincerely apologized, and made an honest effort to make sure that you don't feel that way ever again. Instead, he just made you feel worse, made you look bad, and then told you not to worry about it because he's not mad at you. You need to leave this sexual predator alone... He seems dangerous. Seriously
2007-05-01 08:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shawna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time you give it up you are setting yourself to get used!!! The only way to know a guy isn't using you is to NOT SLEEP WITH HIM!!! You are being a little fool! This guy is older and yes he likes you because you are sleeping with him. He is acting like because he never calls you for sex, that he has no blame in this. All you little girls are so foolish thinking you can hold a guy with sex!!! If you are looking for a relationship, then you are sadly barking up the wrong tree!!! Get some self respect and quit using sex to get guys!!!
2007-05-01 08:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all-what is the age difference? It sounds to me like he is saying you are too young for him-but hey if you call then its all ok and he can have sex with you and not feel guilty. He is putting it all back on you and not really answering the question straight forward. If he was really a gentleman like he thinks he is-then he would call you just to talk and not wait for you to call for "sex". I would get rid of this guy super fast and not waste any more time on him.
2007-05-01 07:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by HThot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as I read your exchange with this man, my red flags went up! This man, and I do have a feeling that there is a "significant" age difference here, is proceeding very cautiously. To be perfectly honest, this man sounds like a predator.This man KNOWS he needs to be very careful. He is not leaving himself open for any trouble, legally. Your gut instincts were correct, he is a man using a young "vulnerable girl" for sexual favors. Do not let him draw you into believing he is your friend, or protector, or a nice harmless do gooder fatherly type guy. This man has nothing but his own pathetic interests in mind. Please trust me on this. I bet this is not the first time, he has "befriended" young girls. Please do not have anymore contact with this man.
2007-05-01 07:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your the one whos always calling him then stop and see were it goes, don't be calling him.
And if he has a thing about your age and hes like over 18 and your underage then I would be stopping anyways before you get your self into trouble. Start talking to other guys and have fun don't spend your life wondering about this one.
2007-05-01 07:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you, but he certainly does not love you and is not in love with you. That issue stands out like a sore thumb. I can see clearly why you still have uncertainty about where you stand with him. I think you want more from him, but is something he can not yet give or may not even want to.
2007-05-01 08:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's interested, maybe you should tell him that you would appreciate him to call you more, and not only for sex, if he went to see you in the middle of the night to make sure you get home safely, he's clearly interested, a guy just looking for sex don't do that
2007-05-01 07:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by MonicAg 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i'd say you have a heck of a guy. but you are the pushing it and you may be pushing to hard from the sound of it. maybe i am to old fashion, but just for sex? what happen to lets wait a while? good luck
2007-05-01 07:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by sparkeysbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blondie,
My advice to you is be careful. Older guys are a different then your peers and they are not always the best choice.
2007-05-01 07:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by thejeneral1230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋