A month ago, I had an argument with my gf just for one day. On that day, she went to work in a massage parlor in Hong Kong and slept with 5 guys just to get back at me. Anyway, I was able to forgive her but even now, I still can't get over her mistake.
I love her but I am still disgusted by her action. How should I get over it or should I have dumped her??
2007-05-01 07:49:16 · 17 answers · asked by White Shooting Star of HK 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please dump this woman, if she could even be called that :( you may love her, but im sorry to tell u she truly doesnt love you. eveyone has arguments and everyone once in awhile will want the other person to get jealous to somewhat get their frustation over the argument out, but sleeping with 5 men? thats just senseless and cold hearted..she wasnt thinking about your feelings. she couldve slept with 1 man if thats how she thought getting back at u would be best...not 4 more...sounds like a poor excuse to get hers. Your too kind too be with someone so cold hearted. find someone who really cares about you as much as u care about her. best wishes!
2007-05-01 07:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can't advise you on whether you should dump her or not. That's for you and you alone to decide.
I'd imagine it must be very difficult for you to overcome though. If I were in this situation, I would leave my guy because there is no way possible I could come to terms with what he had done. She slept with 5 different guys....bit more of just making a "mistake." Once the trust is gone, there is nothing else left.
That's my view on how I would deal with this. So sorry you are going through this.
2007-05-01 14:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump her. I think she used that argument as an excuse to cheat on her. She sounds very selfish and cruel. Do you think she would take you back had you done the very same thing? I honestly don't think so. She has no respect for you or your relationship. I advise you dump her and move on. If she does this over an argument in one day, whats she going to do in the future when real problems surface? Bigger problems? Sleep with the entire city? You deserve someone that will treat you with respect and dignity. Best of luck~
2007-05-01 14:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is for real (and you're not a troll), you should dump her so fast that her head would spin. If she has sex with 5 strangers just to get back at you, imagine what she would do if you had a kid together, or owned property or investments, or just had a car together.
And think hard about who you date when you jump back into the game, too. If this is the sort of girl you've dated before, you need to raise your standards quite a bit.
2007-05-01 14:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is were the trust and fidelity was broken. Do you WANT to stay in this relationship or do you want out?
If you really love her, and want to stay, Get into some counseling together and hash it out...get some answers and get to the root of the problem.
If you dont...then get out. Because otherwise it will eat you up inside.
All depends on how you feel about HER. Will you ever be able to trust her(Not just forgive her)???? IF not, then yes, its time to get out.
2007-05-01 14:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by Christie E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of my friends have done things like that to spite their boyfriends. Its a very immature action.
If you truly believe her apology to be sincere then forgive her, I understand it will take awhile (it took me awhile) to regain that trust. Just let her know that you are struggling surpassing the trust issues you are having, and for her to be patient with you, as you have been with her.
HTHs
Good Luck.
2007-05-01 14:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gods that's immature. Wouldn't you rather be in a relationship in which the woman can talk things out as opposed to sleeping with a bunch of guys?
2007-05-01 14:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU! Sorry, but when someone really loves you they don’t hurt you like that. Also, think about it any time you guys get mad is she going to sleep around? ****, that’s no excuse; she was only waiting for a lame excuse to sleep around. Move on, and find someone that will show you love and respect.
2007-05-01 14:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Alondra 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY. Your agrument was just an excuss for her to screw around. 5 GUYS! This is definitly not someone you need to stay with. I'd be disgusted too, but I sure as hell would not have forgiven her nor would I still be with her.
2007-05-01 14:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by twistedsharks 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow is she vindictive!
I say find a NICE girl that understand that you can love someone, but still be angry at them--and won't take such rash actions.
Not only is it emotionally damaging, but you could catch some horrific disease as well--and condoms can't protect you from them all.
2007-05-01 14:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Songbird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋