I have been seeing a man for 2 months. I know he is with someone else, I don't know the details, but according to him they aren't serious anymore, they just have a business together. He told me to wait for him until things are settled. Should I wait and keep going the way things are or should I just take things slowly and wait until things are done before I get too serious? Please help me it's a wild roller coaster ride.
2007-05-01 07:17:41 · 30 answers · asked by deathsangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think you can do so much better, if he would do that to his girlfriend , he will do the same to you, find someone who's faithful , and better then him.
2007-05-01 07:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say no, just tell him that you would like to be friends. I have seen this situation time after time. You will get caught up. It's not fair that he's having his cake and eat it too. He has her and you, but I'm sure he's expecting you not to get involved with another person right. How can you be faithful to someone that has someone else. This doesn't make any sense. I would just be casual friends. No sex, no obligations, I wouldn't even talk about his other relationship at all. Believe me, if he wanted you and all of you right now. He wouldnt' have a problem with letting her know. It's business but he can keep it professional. So that's no excuse. Before you know it you will have feelings for him and then it will be harder and harder to leave. So do it now while it's a breeze.
2007-05-01 07:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the drama from being put on the back burner, then sure, stick around for some more. I'm sure there's more where that came from! Instead of him telling you what to do, you should tell him thanks, but you don't wait around for nobody. Life is to short. If he can't even end one relationship before starting another, why are you going to be any different? If he says the other girl isn't cutting it for him, why isn't it that simple then? Because he's beating around the bush. And the poor other girl is probably being lied to also.That's why. Tell him if you're available after he gets things resolved with her, then maybe you'll talk.
2007-05-01 07:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get yourself all mixed up into this drama! He may or may not be a honest person (if he's like all the other guys I've ever dated)! They would always tell you that the other person they've been involved with is no one or nothing and for you to wait for them. I would just take it easy with him; maybe just be friends until you see for sure that he's done with this other person. This way you can go into a relationship with a fresh start & nothing hanging over your head.
2007-05-01 07:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Buggaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the problem is that you don't know how long you are gonna end up waiting, and there is a risk you will be waiting around for something that may never even happen. You deserve a guy is ready to give all of himself to you. This guy sounds like he is stringing you along.
2007-05-01 07:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is 38 numbers on a roulett wheel, which one will pay me 35 to one odds. In the best of odds, you should have done this and not that, or maybe I should have done that and not this. You already know the answer to what your asking. Start your own foundation rather than build on someone elses.
2007-05-01 07:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by josh03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he has much respect for women the way it sounds. You can't just keep one for backup supply for when you get done with the first one. Why should you wait for him? If he really wanted to have something serious with you he would have already gotten rid of the other girl.
2007-05-01 07:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously don't trust him enough that's why u ask this question. The only thing you can do is keep your eyes open. Honestly if I was you I would not get involved with a man who is seeing someone else .. I just don't like to be a 2nd choice. Buts its up to you.
2007-05-01 07:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what he says, if you were the special one for him - you would be the only one. Don't belittle yourself by being bought-off with his cheap promises. You deserve someone that puts you on a pedestal, not shoves you to the back for someone else. Cut your losses and be better about selecting the next guy. Make a list and check it twice, don't lower your standards for anyone.
2007-05-01 07:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and find someone without baggage! That sounds a little to much of a ride and how do you know he's not still "seeing" her? Just cause he says so? I don't think so honey! Get out of that relationship before he just ends up hurting you!!!!
2007-05-01 07:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by puzlgrl21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should continue to live your life. Now if he comes around, and you're single, then so be it. But you have to respect yourself as a woman, and know that you're too good to be waiting around for SOMEONE else's man. Never allow anyone to put your life on hold; it's too damn short!
2007-05-01 07:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by Jay's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋