Why are people with children so rude? And why are tehy rude to people who do not have or want children?

Question

I do not understand why people with children are so RUDE!!!!! They ram you with strollers, let the children kick ,scream and yell without even trying to quiet them. You go into a restaurant to eat a meal and they kick the back of your booth, cry or stare at you pressed against the glass. Whatever happened to a good butt whooping" ???

The parents are just as bad... They let it happen, I guess its easier to not deal with .

Just got back from vacation and had to endure a ton of breeders are their offspring. Could not sleep at night for the crying in the room next door, and could not enjoy the pool or hot tub at all for the kids. Even had the lifesaving tube in the hot tub.

I 'll go ahead and say I HATE KIDS! I am 24 years old and happily married for 7 years.. Never had the desire to have any and don't thinkn I never will.

People need to respect the fact that some people would like to eat or sleep without being infringed upon!!

I know i would not make a good parent because I do Hate children. But I choose not to have them, it would be a different story if I had them ans was a bad parent.

I have yet to say anything to a parent. The stroller ramming is due to people not watching where there going.

Secndly, why should people that don't have kids have to go other places where kids should not be. I do not drink so why should I have to go ta a bar with some drunk people just to avoid children? Why can't I eat at Dennys in peace? Why can't I vacation at amusement parks, without enduring rude children.

People take to much offense to people that neither have or want kids. I am so tired of being asked? Do you have kids? Why not? Can you not have kids? Is your marriage failing? Why not have kids? Oh, you'll have a house full later on.

What because I'm 24 i should done have 3 or 4 & be sucking up welfare and WIC???

brevejunkie:::: First off, As far as I know I am able to bear children. I haven't tried so>>>>> Less of a woman,,, you hag... get over it.. YOUR A BREEDER .. You seem to me the type that thinks unless you have children your not complete... sounds like a lack of confidence on your part... I am a strong suceesful woman. I don't need a group of brats to complete me...

ok, this is how it always works .. someone says they do not want kids... and there is some reasoning behind it other than dislike. I DO NOT wish to have children, its not the parents, or parenting, Its a bunch of factors. I am also not saying allp arents are bad ( to clarify). True you do notice the bad ones opposed to good out in public, but that does not change the fact that I still do not like children. Yes, we were all children once. Nothing we can do about that. But me being a child once, still does not change the fact. Also i am NEITHER against or condone spanking, to eachs own. Their children their decision. Also , on another note, that someone stated i must have been beaten, spanked, and not exposed to society. I was raised right, with manners. I was an active child, and didn't receive many spankings, but that was because I was taught how to BEHAVE.

Answer 1

i do not understand this either. what i also do not understand is the people that are answering this CONDONING the behavior of these children and parents.

i do not have kids. as of right now, i do not want kids. i HATE other people's kids purely on the fact that parents these days do not know how to raise proper children. and yes, i do give parents and children bad looks. there is NO REASON WHATSOEVER for any parent to allow their heathens to run amok in a store, bumping into people. there is no reason for a woman to be walking around banging people in the back of the legs with their stroller. it is ridiculous. i hate when people say "boys will be boys" or "they're just kids". when i was a child, i walked around with m y hands behind my back, or holding my mothers hand. i did not throw temper tantrums in a mall. i was never hit, i was never punished, i was never screamed at. my parents raised me properly, something that evidently is not done as much any more.

no, i do not have kids, but i have a niece who did live with me. i've been around her since the day she was born, and she would NEVER act the way kids do. she even says to me when we're out "those kids are misbehaving" and shes 5. and i don't say this because she is my niece. i have a total of 8 nephews and nieces, and i hate 5 of them because they are little sh*ts. 2 of them are grown up so they don't act like that and the other is my well behaved niece.

it all boils down to lack of parenting. people have children now because that is supposedly what you have to do when you get married. they have 4 children, both parents work, and no one has time to raise them. and nowadays people find it practically sinful to hit their child. i don't condone child abuse, by any means, but if your child is screaming at the top of their lungs, pushing things off shelves, and flat out ruining someones day, then yeah, you need to smack some sense into that child.

some parents do not respect others. they feel they are above everyone because they do have kids.

Answer 2

I don`t think ALL people with children are rude, I think you are just venting!!But as far as not being able to go to Denny`s or an amusement park without seeing children, I think you`re on your own young lady!! These activities are designed for the amusement of children.. Ok, we`ve had to endure people hating blacks, jews, the disabled, and NOW CHILDREN!! I`m sorry children are part of life! God created us to be able to produce offspring!! If it wasn`t for other people creating children you would not be married to another individual who was once a child. Please, don`t be irrational, not all little kids are bad!! Not all parents are bad!!BUT, that being said, there are more bad parents out there than there are good ones, and this may be what`s turning you off towards children!!But don`t be vicious and angry towards the children, IT IS THE PARENTS THAT NEED TO BE DEALT WITH!!!!!



Ps, I felt the same way you did years ago, and I absolutely refused to have children!! But my kids arrived and I love them to death!!I still have a distaste in my mouth for nasty kids who act out in public, and their parents just sit there and allow it!! I understand how you`re feeling, but approach the parents and tell them that their kids are bothing you and the other patrons!! Oh, and if the kids in the hotel room beside you were making your stay a living h#$$, then you could have complained to the front desk, and they could have evicted them from the hotel room, I`ve done this before!!

Answer 3

I really don't know why the parents allow this. I have two kids (grown now) and we would leave restaurants if they behaved like that. Regardless of where we were in a meal, I'd get the waitress and then we'd go home. We left movies, stores, etc, if they acted out. It didn't take them long to realize what was appropriate in public. People seem to allow the children to run the family now. I think it's a huge mistake. Wait'll they grow up and discover NO ONE thinks they're the center of the universe. I don't hate kids, but I sure hate lazy parents.

Answer 4

It's a bit of a generality to say that ALL people with kids are like that. Maybe it's just the area in which you live as opposed to people with kids? With that having been said, though, there are a lot of people who let their kids run wild without correcting them. As someone who spent five years working in retail, I can attest to that. But I still think it's safe to say that not all parents are like that. Mine weren't. It's really just the ones that are that are the noticeable minority.

If you don't want kids, that's up to you. In fact, at this point in my life, I really don't think I want them, either. But, you may want to tone down on the "I hate kids" stuff and the "breeder" comments. That's going to offend some people. Besides, if everyone were like us, the human race would become extinct! = P. (Just like if everyone wanted to have four to six kids, the world would become so crowded we couldn't move---it's all about balance, people!)

Also (about the restaurants), I have noticed that if I go to places that have bars (i.e. serve alcohol), the kid issue isn't as noisy---though maybe it's just my general area. If you're eating at a place like McDonald's or Denny's, then you pretty much just have to accept this. If parents never took their kids to places like that, they would probably never get out of the house! lol

Answer 5

Ah a woman after my own heart. I'm a 55 year old woman, never got married, didn't care to and MOST definitely never wanted kids. Why is it that so many women look at us as if we have two heads, why we must be crazy not to want to have a whole parcel of those little ......
I never could stand being in a restaurant where the parents allow the kids to run wild, make a big fuss and loud noises.
When my parents took us to a restaurant (all 5 kids) WE knew how to behave. We didn't leave our seats, we spoke in soft voices and definitely made sure we did not disturb other diners, our parents taught us well.
Parents need to learn to have more control over their children, they need to have a little bit of common sense and courtesy when they bring their children along with them where ever they go.
I agree one hundred percent. Fortunately I do go out to eat very often, that is part of the reason, but in my opinion it is getting to the point where there will have to be separate sections for families with children, kind of like how it started with the smoking and non-smoking sections. It can be a real problem for restaurant owners.

Answer 6

So basically what you are saying is that your parents were especially rude and abusing to you? I guess that they must have locked you up in a cage, beat the sh1t out of you, kept you away from society. This is the only way that you could have grown up without a heart. Yes, some people dont know how to control their children, but spanking them is sure a violent way of correcting them. These children did'nt ask to be born, or have to choose the parents that they have. What about when a child smiles at you. It's the most beautiful thing in the world. By the way, are you and your husband a re-incarnation of Hitler and stalin?

Answer 7

HELLO! A sister! I am over 50, and have disliked children and their manners and their parents in the same way, my whole life. I do NOT understand why "he's just a child" should be an excuse for anything from barfing at the table to ax murder.

There are no-children resorts and personally, when I go to a restaurant, I ask for a seat in an area without children. If they can't accommodate me, they don't want my money very badly. If the come later and seat people with children near me, I'll call the hostess and ask to be moved, stating clearly, "I asked to be seated where there are NO children..." of course, that won't fly in McDonald's, but if you're in a nice restaurant, they should be pretty flexible about it. People who have kids, have no sense any more. They take them everywhere. Children too small to sit and eat at a table should NOT be in a fine restaurant.

Answer 8

Please do not pay attention to the ignorant people who make comments about you being barren. Some people are not smart enough to comprehend that some people truly do not like children, especially other people's rude brats.

But to answer your question, it is because these parents truly believe that everyone out there just adores their kids and anything they do, even when they destroy other people's stuff. And don't believe that it is impossible to control the kids, the parents that claim they "just cannot control them" just don't want to do anything to truly discipline their brats. If they did, the kids would actually know how to behave.

Answer 9

i am glad that you say you dont want kids because you clearly would not make a good parent. you have made a very harsh generalization. and perhaps you need to respect the fact that EVERYONE including families have the right to vacation or dine at any place they please. maybe you should just go to places that are adults only atmosphere. and it is not as easy as you think to just get them to quiet down or behave. i hate ppl that act like the parents want their kids to be screaming or misbehaving. i will say that when my children act out of line i correct them no matter where we are at, i do believe in discipline and making my children behave.

my children are well mannered and polite but what is interesting is how ppl are saying how "rude" parents are but in the next breathe they say how they give parents and kids dirty looks??? i would say you that make you fall into the rude category. if you dont want to be around kids then find something else to do. there are plenty of things in this world that i dont like or want to see but i have to have some tolerance for other people i suggest that the rest of you do the same. and why should families have to go somewhere because "dennys" to avoid rude intolerant jerks like u???? and what does welfare and wic have to do with anything. i know lots of parents who are not on goverment assitance. you are very ignorant and unimformed.

Answer 10

Do you really think that parents give one damn what the person next door thinks, HA you are mistaken dear. If you do not have a kid, then you simply will never know what it is like to care for one. I'm not gotta slap my kid and tell them to shut up just cause the stupid girl in front of me is rolling her eyes. Have you ever thought that maybe there ramming their strollers into you cause you look like a total ***** or are giving their kids a bad look? I'm glad your not having any kids too, id hate for there to be another jerk of a mother "whooping" their kids cause the girl next door is an asshole. I bet when you do have kids, yours is going to be the worst of the lot. Congratulations, your having twins.

About you saying, "why cant I eat at Denny's or vacation at an amusement park" Because there are kids there, and its not them that don't like you, YOU don't like them, so just get out of the way and sulk in your house with your 15 cats, I will take my kids where I want, when ever they want, They have the appropriate manners for their age, I have a hard time believing that a child over the age of 4 would act like that, the only kinds of children that cry loudly, and stare at people are very small children, and if you have any kind of education, you would know that children do not think on the same level as adults.