Hey there, i have been together now with my Boyfriend for about 3 months, im wondering what you guys think about when it comes to paying the dinner out bill, do you think Dutch is the way to go or One day he pays the other i pay, we get a little agravated when we have no idea who should pay. Any help would be great.
2007-05-01 05:57:03 · 25 answers · asked by kal_el_kitten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go dutch.... then you know that you are each paying for whatever you each order....
But every now and then... you can offer to pay the others... and when you want to... then you just say so... and the other one says... "oh sweetie... you really shouldn't ... but thank you... I had a wonderful time..." =) That's what I would do...
2007-05-01 06:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by blueskies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy show always offer and have the money to pay but there is really no answer to who should have to pay. The guy pays so the girl doesn't have to worry about anything. If the girl wants to pay that's cool too. Just work it out. If you both agree on it then set something up for who pays.
2007-05-01 06:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about trying something really unique. Talk to him about it. Sit down and talk about what you think is fair and get his idea. Then negotiate something that works for both of you. Maybe you can split on it or you pay every other time or hey, maybe stay home and cook for each other. You have to be able to talk to have a relationship and this gives you a wonderful opportunity to practice the foundation (good communication) of a relationship and lean to negotiate (give and take) so it results in a win win situation
2007-05-01 06:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a combination of going dutch and sometimes one person paying and sometimes the other....depending on who's in better financial shape at the moment. It's nice to treat your bf or gf to a nice dinner every once in a while.
2007-05-01 06:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am old school chivalrous. I will pay the bill every time. That being said, I find it to be an incredibly nice gesture for the girl i'm dating to surprise and pick up the bill. It eases my mind because it shows responsibility and a consciousness of what is going on.
2007-05-01 06:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Adapted_For_The_Screen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it come naturally, if you reach over for the bill then you pay it...if he reaches over then he pays. I dont believe the guy should be the only one paying thats BS because you both should be equal although if i were the guy id try and pay the bill every time if i really liked you. and if i had a good job :)
2007-05-01 06:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfgang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally a guy pays for his date (generally because a man makes more money than a female), but once a relationship is pretty established if you know that it is a hardship for him to pay all the time you could offer (like next time we go out, my treat) or something like that. It is still proper etiquette for the "gentleman" to treat the "lady" he is dining out with. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-01 06:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your boyfriend... Brutally honest conversations are the foundation of a heathy relationship. The fact that you are not asking him should be the first sign that you need better communication.
This is an easy one to work out....:-)
If you can't both agree, then agree to not go out and eat again until both of you are in agreement on the arrangement.
2007-05-01 06:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For who is taking who out for dinner? If he ask you out for dinner then he would be the one to pay for the dinner. Then who is taken you for the dinner then they should pay. Unless you both talk about it together to work it out. For normally it would be the man that looks after the lady when going out together.
2007-05-01 06:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by Barry T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't get aggrivated about it - it's really no big deal.
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 5 months. some days he'll pay, some days i'll pay.
personally, i believe whoever initiates the outing should pay for the meal. for example: if my boyfriend stays the night at my house and i say we should go out to breakfast, i'll pay (sometimes he'll offer to pay - and sometimes i accept that)..... but if he says "thursday we're going out to eat with chris and veronica" it's his job to pay, because he initiated the outing.
usually we discuss payment on the way to the place... i'll tell him i'll pay for lunch, or i'll give him some money to pitch in, or he'll tell me that he's gonna cover everything.
payment isn't a big deal unless the bill doesn't get paid :p
2007-05-01 06:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋