I don’t want to have a party reception right after the ceremony where’s as my soon to be husband does. I grew up in religious house hold and my parents don’t drink or party. Plus a portion of my guest is church goers and they also don’t drink or party. So I was thinking of having a nice quiet reception at the church where we’re gonna have the wedding ceremony and then having an after party at a club or something.
2007-05-01 05:41:34 · 23 answers · asked by always_sweet_b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
As a minister's daughter, I definitely understand your situation. You actually have a few options.:
-have a reception at the church that doesn't include dancing and alcohol
-have a reception at a different location, but open the bar and dancing after dinner and traditional reception activites
-have a reception at the church and an after party later at a different location (host hotel where guests are staying, club, etc.)
We chose to have a reception without alcohol and dancing immediately after our ceremony at the same location as our ceremony. During the reception we had upbeat, contemporary gospel music playing during the background while guests ate, provided a non-alcoholic bar including a sparkling raspberry spumante toast (non-alcoholic), and had the traditional reception activities (toasts, cake cutting, bouquet toss/dedication).
You could have something very similar at the church then move your after party to a different location. Or you can have your reception at another location altogether and just open up the bar and dancing after dinner and the traditional wedding reception activities so your guests who don't want to party can excuse themselves.
2007-05-01 08:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a great idea! You go girl! That is so kind and considerate of you! Though I am not hispanic I was raised in So. California and had many friends who were of hispanic background and years ago before the custom became diluted that is how it was done! The wedding was for close family and friends and very religious and there would be a cake and coffee or punch at the church and later in the evening woud be "the DANCE" It was really more of an honor to be invited to the dance than the wedding!The wedding party could change into evening wear and the guest came in all their finery and it was just a good time! Lots of great music dancing and having a good time with everyone. I hope this works for you. Just keep in mind you will only do this once and it needs to be special for everyone involved! It sounds like a very comfortable solution for your church friends, family and YOU!
2007-05-01 05:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 05:06:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are plenty of people who do the church basement reception to satisfy the teatotalers and then move on to the 'real' party later. What I see happen often is that the entire bridal party will head to the bar after the reception is over.
2007-05-01 05:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's EXACTLY what my brother and his wife did at their wedding. It worked great, because the members of the family who don't drink were able to be with them and not have to deal with people getting drunk around them, and then after the reception was over, they went to their favorite club with friends, and continued the party there. My brother said the other advantage to doing it that way, they didn't have to spend the money on the alcohol that was WAY overpriced from the caterer.
2007-05-01 06:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a cool idea! Bear in mind, it's a tiring day, will you still be up for a later party? If so, go for it! It's your day too! Have the after church one for about 2 hours to greet people and then excuse yourselves. Brides do that all the time...they schedule the limo so they can get out of the reception at a certain time. "Limo's here! Gotta go! Thank you all for coming!"
2007-05-01 05:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with that at all. I've been to numerous weddings where it was kind of unspoken that we'd all be able to get a drink or two with everyone during the reception, but by 9 or 10--when everyone else goes to bed--we could start to party as hard as we wanted.
2007-05-01 05:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by jdm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just have a regular reception after the ceremony? They're nothing at all like club parties. It's just dinner and a few dances. Even religious people can do the chicken dance. Keep in mind, though, that just because your family does not drink is NOT a good enough reason to not have drinks available at your reception.
2007-05-01 05:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Yeah that sounds cool. You have something for the religions people then something for the people who like to drink and get their party on. Thats smart and no thats crazy at all! Good idea. That also shows respect.
2007-05-01 06:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The after party is a great idea! Absolutely go for it!
2007-05-01 08:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by SupaDupaWoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋