do u believe it to be disrespectful if my soon to be husband is inviting an ex-girlfriend (who hes discussed marriage with) to our wedding???
2007-05-01 05:10:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well I think in certain situations it would be ok to invite them. I personally have a very close group of friends from high school. We have remained friends even 8 years after graduation and going separate ways for college. One happens to be an ex from back in school. I was very hurt when everyone in the group but me got invited to his wedding. His fiancée didn’t want any of his ex’s there. So he devised a plain with all of us to have me go as a guest of one of the other people invited (Sad but true and no way to start off a marriage). I didn’t go because I felt if she didn’t want me there (even though she has no idea who I am) it wouldn’t be right. However it hurt me because he is a good friend and I would have like to have been able to celebrate this great occasion in his life. If it is someone who has caused problems in your relationship than no I don’t think you should invite her but if they truly are just friends why not. When I get married if he wants to invite an ex I will have no problem because he is marrying and loves me.
2007-05-01 05:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by fallenangelf99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that because you have mixed feelings about it then you shouldn't do it. There are some circumstances where it could be ok, but normally I recommend against it. In your situation, because marriage was once discussed, I would definitely say you need to talk to your fiance and ask him why he would want her there?
After all, this is your wedding, celebrating your future together with your new husband, why would you want any reminders of your past?
2007-05-01 05:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by SmileyAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have remained friends (AND ONLY FRIENDS) with all my exes. And they were also invited to my wedding, and I there's. If you are an ADULT and can appreciate that beause something didn't work out, does not mean that the basis for loving someone is gone, then you can accept that sometimes friendship will blossom from a failed relationship. This is when you show that you are ready for marriage and a life with someone. That you are truly ready for an ADULT relationship.
2007-05-01 05:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It depends! My husbands ex was at our wedding, only because their 4 yr old daughter was the flower girl. I am also very very good freindswith another one of his ex gf's, and if i had known her then, i would have invited her (shes married with children now as well)
2007-05-01 08:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat, but i am the one that wants to invite the ex.
My ex and i are good friends and he respects that i am getting married. I am getting married to my fiance and this is our day to show everyone our commitment to each other. This is the day that i will become one with him and i want to share that with my friends.
if anything this is the time that you should feel least threatened. You are marrying him. He loves you!
BUT if you really don't want her there then discuss that with him and he should respect you for that. My fiance and i have talked about it and we have decided not to invite my ex because he really does not want him there.
Hope it helps!
2007-05-01 05:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by Her 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to invite an ex to your wedding? I don't know about disrespectful but it's certainly weird. The only way I can see this happening is if they have kids together and she was coming with their kids, other than that, she doesn't belong at your wedding.
2007-05-01 05:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you BOTH need to agree on inviting the ex. If you are not comfortable with it for whatever reason then she should not be invited. If you both are still friends with the ex, then go ahead and invite her.
2007-05-01 07:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My exs? I miss what we had, but them? No, not really. I mean it sucks and all but I'm not going to dwell on it. Theres plenty of fish in the sea, and I've met a very awesome fish. Now lets see where that goes..
2016-05-18 00:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unnecessary to invite an Ex to your wedding. She has no reason to be there. If he can't realize that, then lets hope she a least has 2 brain cells to rub together to realize it.
2007-05-01 05:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should have asked you before inviting her. Your feelings trump his ex on your wedding day (and... every other day!). If you have no problem with it, then its fine. If you dont like it, tell him youll be uncomfortable, and thats not how you should start your marriage!
2007-05-01 05:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋