If your child was 13 and pregnant and wanted to keep the baby, would you let her? A girl at school is 13 and having a baby. Shes only in 7th grade. And the dad is way older then she is.But she chose to have sex.
2007-05-01 04:42:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
13 is so young to have and take care of a child, but she had sex and now has to deal with the responsibiblity of a new baby in her life. It would be incredibly hard. I would tell my child "We are disipointed in that you choose to take this route in life, it will be difficult for you. We will be there for you and want you to finish school, but this is going to be your responsibiliby and you need to live up to it." I'd also get the older boy on sexual charges, or satutory rape if he's older than 17. A baby is a gift, even if unexpected. It might change her life, but hopefully for the better.
2007-05-01 04:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by ayla_2114 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A 13-year-old has no clue about being a parent, and doesn't yet have the maturity for it. In this case, her mother has a hard decision to make: Be prepared to take on most of the responsibility of caring for the baby while also continuing to parent the teenager until she finishes school and can support herself and her child, or sit the girl down and explain to her that adoption is probably the best thing for the baby and herself. The girl has some tough lessons to learn either way.
2007-05-01 11:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Clare † 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your old enough to have sex, your old enough to have a baby. I did hear a story some time ago on the news about a 10 year old having a baby, I was in shock and the idea is almost impossible to grasp. You've gotta take whatever life throws at you..I would say let her decide but she is 13 so mom should help with the decision.
I found out I was pregnant at 17 which I STILL think is too young but nowadays, its not so uncommon. I don't know what it is, maybe genetics or something in our food but women are capable of having children earlier then they were before. Being 13 and pregnant is not so uncommon these days..
SO. I say look at your finances, your home and how you see your life in the future with and without the baby. You don't want to bring a beautiful thing in this world only to have an unstable home/family. If you can raise the baby well, (with help, obviously) I say keep it.
2007-05-01 11:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by sarahcare 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if I were the parent I certainly would not let her abort the baby. If she wanted to keep it as her own....I'm not sure. I would hate to let her carry it and give it away but if that's how things have to work then I'd let her put it up for adoption to a family that will keep in contact with us all the time. However, if she carries it and we keep it, I'd make d.amn sure that she takes care of the baby as much as possible so she knows the consequences of having sex at 13. As for school...home school her for 2 years than let her start regular school. I would also be worried about the dad because he might try take the baby and stuff so figure out what his plan is and if he wants nothing to do with it, order a restraining order or something.
2007-05-01 13:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by daiquri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that I am having a daughter....my perspective on things have changed a lot. Although, I would never put my child through such an emotional toll. I'd rather her learn that she chose to have sex and she needs to be responsible for her actions. I'd help her throughout her pregnancy but as far as an abortion goes, i think it is an easy way out.
I know a lot of people will be like, "think of the baby." Well, as her parent I would, like I said be there for her....as well as help her learn what her responsibilites are as a parent. This may sound a little cliche but.....I feel that's what would be right for MY daughter.
2007-05-01 19:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is no way that a 13 yr old could take care of a baby, she is still a baby herself making adult decisions, she should give the baby up for adoption to a family who cannot have children and would love a new baby, she wouldnt even be financially stable, her parents would be paying for that child, so basically mom and dad would be the "parents" thats ridiculous, i cannot believe a 13 yr old would even think about sex, and i cant believe an older man would think about having sex with a girl so young,..people are so gross..
2007-05-01 15:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by beautifultragedy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would be madly upset and dissapointed with my daughter but at the end of the day i would never force her to abort the baby! my friend who is in her 50's got pregnant at 18, in those days it was a very bad thing and her dad forced her to give her baby up for adoption, she is now, as i said, in her 50's and still hates her dad for making her do this.
its such a hard thing and i wouldnt know for sure unless it happened to my daughter but at this point i think she would only hate you for it!
it is also a case of how mature she is, and how she is going to look after her baby.
a good thing to do is talk to her like an adult and let her know what she is really in for - sleepless nights, nappy changing, the expense of a baby, the fact that she wont be able to got out much even when she turns 18 etc. not to intimidate her but just to let her know the truth behind it all!
2007-05-01 11:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by girley_05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT. There is no thirteen year old that is ready for the responsibilities of parenthood. She may want to keep the baby, but that would be unfair to everyone involved. I would schedule an abortion ASAP and ground her for several days afterward so she could focus on the consequences of her irresponsibility. She will definitely need counseling afterwards, but given the opportunity she could take this as a learning experience and become more responsible and aware. Good luck! And be strong...
2007-05-01 11:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by at work 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't let her keep the baby at this age her mind and body can't deal with something like this. How is she going to provide for this baby she can't work your the one who will be supporting the baby and taking care of it while she gos to school. How could you let your her go out and have sex you should of put her on birth control and this older guy i would put him in jail for having sex with young girls.
2007-05-01 12:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianne R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would depend on my child's personality, level of maturity and responsibility... Unless one of my children were ever in that situation, I wouldn't know what we would do... Abortion would definitely NOT be an option!
But I would feel I had failed as a parent if my daughter were to be 13 and pregnant.
I might add, I would have the father thrown in jail if he were over the age of consent!! Because I believe in most states, that would be statutory rape!!
2007-05-01 11:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyMama982 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋