Well okay, the guy and girl doesnt have to be dating. They can be going out as friends and all and is it only right that the guy offer to pay for dinner and movie and all when they are out?
I think that it is gentlemanly for the guy to do so. The girl can reject, but the guy should at least offer to do so. My male friend and I were having a discussion the other day and he said that this is a outdated thinking.. Well, how bout you?
2007-05-01 04:10:17 · 17 answers · asked by poison b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's silly if you're only friends. It's not like the guy needs to impress the girl, and it would be foolish for the girl to even expect the offer. It makes me feel like I'm in their debt. However, if I have the opportunity to "pay them back" by paying for dinner, or paying for movies the next time, then it's ok. If the guy tries to pay every time and doesn't let me pay, then it's annoying because we're not on equal footing. Thus, I think it should only happen if there is a romantic interest or if the two of you take turns paying for things.
2007-05-01 04:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Matichel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so I have been dating my b/f for almost 3 years now and we usually split the bill because I offer (we've been dating so long that it's okay to do that), but he usually will be the one to go for the bill. And as for going as friends, I have had lots of guy friend dates and such, it is the sweetest thing when a guy offers to pay because then it shows that he is not a loser and does care. And also another hint, if you like her, it will really impress her. It's kind of a turn on for girls. So be prepared to pay for the date, but she might offer to pay for it too, so you never know. Just be prepared.
2007-05-01 11:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by iansbaby17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed emotions about this issue becuase I am older and from the "old school" where men carried the burden of paying for the date. Today, young men and women go out all the time and they are not really "dating" so I think it's okay for a female to pay for her own part if they are friends. When a relationship has been established and the couple are completely in communication with one another - they, can decide how they will pay for the date. I have paid and loved doing it- he has paid and loved doing it - but it was because we both came to terms and were open and honest about our intentions and desires/
2007-05-01 11:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If with one on one date with a friend, I think it's good once in a while but the girl should offer. And once in a while she foots the bill.
If it's a group, we usually split it. And if someone pays, each one of us offers, or pick up the tabs for the next event and the treater doesn't have to pay.
2007-05-01 11:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a girl so I'd like it :)
But seriously, I think it's a nice thing to do still. I would be rather impressed with a guy who did it. I don't think gentleman behaviour is ever outdated...I think you would be hard pressed to find a girl who would not want to be treated nicely. Unless she's a feminist of course, then in that case I would have nothing to say :)
2007-05-01 11:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Maril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with woman earning just as much or more than men, sometimes footing the bill, has nothing to do with being a gentleman. dating can be expensive.
sure it is nice if the man foots the bill but i am about being practical. i am not opposed to going dutch or paying the entire bill when i can.
and when we have decided that we will go dutch i will sometimes slip my portion of the bill in my date's hand before we are seated. so nothing is or no one feels awkward.
2007-05-01 11:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by miss lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are just friends, you can still ask just to be polite. Unless, you both decide that both of you will pay separately.
If you are on a date with someone, the guy should always try to pay for the bill unless the girl insists.
2007-05-01 11:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good every so often, but a girl should offer to pay every so often. I'm a girl and I always offer to pay
2007-05-01 11:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by Taryn K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you guys are just friends then you guys should just split it and be fair about it. but if you guys are an item then the giy shoudl offer and the girl can always deny but they should always offer no matter what.
2007-05-01 11:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by nmf_jpc_love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chivalry is not dead. The guy pays. But there is no problem if she wants to pick up the tab once in a while.
2007-05-01 11:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Adapted_For_The_Screen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋