Does anyone think it's a problem when a man openly admits that he is weak...?

Question

and that he looks for a girl who he can rely on emotionally and is strong? Can a girl really prop a guy's emotions up without getting tired? I'm tired-working in a high stress job, suffer from insomnia, brother is heavily reliant on me to take care of him even though he is 24 (money wise especially), and grandma has bladder control problems. Somehow, I feel that I need someone stronger-who I can lean on and just rest. I don't want to have to worry about his insecurities and issues. I want someone to worry about me for a change. Am I being too hard on him? Ofcourse he's sweet and sensitive, but he's waffly and weak as well-and I feel the pressure of that-to be sensitive to him when all I want to do is take a break. Does it makes sense to turn blind eye to everything around me and just focus on being able to sleep each night?

Answer 1

OK, its kinda weak of a man to say he needs someone strong so he can lean on. F**k that. Yes a man does need support to put him back on his feet, call it motivation, but if he just puts no effort to be a man than mama he's a wussy. I dont mean to be mean but the truth hurts. From what you said your allot stronger than he is as a woman and a person cuz your still in there fighting supporting others as well as yourself and that is strength. Remember that in a relationship it's 50 50. When you hurt he helps you up and vise versa but not till the end of time cuz that's just abuse. If you do leave him it will be tough and you will feel bad but you have to because if he hasn't change he most likely wont cuz he feels like hes got it good. If you dont leave him let him support himself for a little. Treat yourself and hold on.

Answer 2

Although this might sound selfish, the bottom line is that you must consider yourself in this issue FIRST. You are already aware of the emotional issues with this man. It seems that you are already aware that you want and need someone more emotionally strong. Having a man that is sensitve and loving and caring is great - but if you settle for the other idiosyncrasies that you have mentioned in your letter, apparently , they are important and you cannot turn a deaf ear to these issues that you believe will fulfill your relationship. Let him go.

Answer 3

Women typically want a man who is confident and secure about himself. Even if that were not true, healthy relationships only occur when each person is emotionally stable. So I think a guy who is messed up emotionally should probably seek help from a therapist instead of a gf.

Answer 4

No, it takes a courageous man to admit he's weak.
And yes a lady can up lift your spirits if she's caring , understanding and tries to help.
We all are humans, sometimes we feel like we have the world on our shoulders and that we can't carry it.
But we must accept we are just one human being, we're not God. We can't do it all alone.
Change the things you can, accept the things you can't change.
Look for a nice lady, but don't try to lay four burdens on her either. Maybe there is someone who needs you as much. Share each others problems.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have enough stress in your life to take on this guy's crap. I can relate with your problem because I had a GF that was the same. Eventually I got tired of carrying her and waiting for her to step up to the plate. The relationship was very one sided.

Answer 6

Yes, I think it's a problem. I'm talking through personal experience. I don't think most women want to be a guy's mommy. I think they want to be his PARTNER, not his wet nurse. I learned this the hard way.
I believe that what you feel you need is TOTALLY natural and normal and healthy for a girl.
You may be being hard on him, but even if you are, trust me, it's totally for his own good anyway.

Answer 7

Well we know how weak he is...... Wonder how strong he is in other areas that might support your weakness. Let me guess you have none...............