I'm an intelligent and mature person. I don't often get girlie "crushes" or anything like that. Having said this I am attractive, confident, and picky and find myself intellectually and emotionally fascinated with one of my university tutors. I have not told him, as we continue to work together, but as I'm gradutaing in a few months time I do plan to either tell him via Email and/or ask him out. He is an intelligent, slightly reserved person do you think he will find this silly or inappropriate behaviour? And which method (confession/asking out) would most guys prefer? I worry he'll find me overwhelming because we're so different in persona.
2007-05-01 02:47:46 · 11 answers · asked by SiSi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you seem to really know yourself and the feelings you have for this man. That is a good first step. In my opinion, a "confession" is a bit much because it usually ends up painting the other person into a corner. You should approach him personally and ask him out for lunch so that you have chance to talk outside of the professional setting of the school and the teacher/student relationship. I do not think he will find this silly or innappropriate if he is as intelligent as you say he is. That being said, I wish you luck on your quest.
2007-05-01 02:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Adapted_For_The_Screen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's so much variation between UU groups as well as within them. Best rule of thumb may be to think in terms of the liberal side of your local community and what their interests tend towards. My guess is that your emphasis on honour and how that influences the way you live your life would be good. My impression is that you have both a strong sense of individual and of community within your tradition, that might really appeal if you're able to convey it well. Not just core beliefs (per your usual talk) but central values, the whys as well as the whats. Depending on the area, there might be pagans from other paths at your talk and some of them might want to get into a discussion about the differences or something like that. Hopefully you won't get a self-appointed guardian of all things pagan attending.... %-) I know you'll be able to handle it, but just a heads up to the possibility. Link below to the UU Principles. Some groups use the language in them a lot, others barely touch on it, but in general the ideas should be familiar territory. You could probably fill your entire time talking about the ways they're expressed (through action as well as words) in your tradition.
2016-05-17 23:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is after you graduate I cannot see the advance as being taken as inappropriate, unless of course he wonders if there will be a link made to a pre-graduate relationship, in which case he may want to distance himself.
As for different persona, that cannot be estimated. The phrase: "Opposites attract" comes to mind.
Good luck.
2007-05-01 02:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by brianthesnailuk2002 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still cannt get over him at the time when u graduated. I suggest u go ask him out for some museum viist/exhibition somewhere. He won't find it too weird. U just say thres an interesting exhibiton and u wan to go with him. U go girl! Dun bury all ur feelings inside. =)
2007-05-01 02:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by knowledge.DOTS 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
once you have left the college - and provided the age difference isnt huge I dont see the problem in sending him an email to ask him out - just be SURE that you are 100% gone from the college so you will not be putting his job and reputation at risk.
If the age gap is considerable - Im not sure its a good idea hun - he might be totally against dating students.
I guess you have to just play it by ear to see - good luck
xx
2007-05-01 03:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are intelligent and mature, you should know how not to overwhelm him.
Wait until you have graduated and invite him to dinner with a group of other students, make sure you get to sit next to him. You will have a whole evening to get to know him. men like this sort of approach...it feels genuine and unforced.
2007-05-01 02:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
do it in person and just ask him out ---- the fact that you like him will be obvious as you talk and you can tell if he is interested in you as well --- email is tacky for this ---- best wishes
2007-05-01 02:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you wont know if you dont try. you never know he might surprise you
Good Luck xx
2007-05-01 03:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If ur different in persona - it won't work!Move on!
2007-05-01 02:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by sircrazydude90 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
wow, that's really interesting. good luck. sorry, i have no advice though lol.
2007-05-01 02:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋